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Hi there

I hope someone can help me. I am a British Citizen and I married a Turkish man in Fethiye in 2000. We had two children together (girls, now 16 and 14 - they were both born in the UK).

We bought an apartment together in Fethiye in 2001 and lived in Turkey. Both names are on the tapu.

After 14 years of marriage, in early 2014, I found out many awful things about my husband - he was having a 3 year affair with a local girl who worked at the cinema, he was also using prostitutes and filming himself (I found the camera), he was watching teenage pornography and in thousands of debt without my knowledge, had a gun in the house, plus many other things. After he knew I found out about all this, he just blamed me for his behaviour. I knew for my sanity and my children's safety that I had to leave.

On the evening of 13th June 2014, my children and I got to Dalaman airport without my husband knowing and we boarded a plane to the UK. I left my house, my job, my friends, we left everything behind. I wrote a letter to my English neighbours explaining why I was leaving.

I brought everything with me - I have the marriage certificate, the tapu, the camera and all the evidence of his unreasonable behaviour etc.

It is now 2017 and my girls and I have never gone back to Turkey. We are now settled in the UK. The girls rarely speak to their father.

However... I have heard a rumour that he has recently divorced me over in Turkey - probably on the grounds of desertion. After all, it has been over two years since I left and I have not had the money to have ever asked a solicitor in the UK for help with it. My ex husband will not answer my FB messages whether he has divorced me or not, but he has been asking my daughter for our address.

My question is: How has he managed to get a judge to grant the divorce when there is property or children involved? What happens now in regards to the apartment if he has divorced me? Can I instruct a solicitor here or in Turkey to sell the apartment because half of it is mine still? He has never paid any child maintenance while I have been in the UK. I want the value of my half of the apartment back because as far as I know he is living it in without any worries now.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you x 

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Hi RockolRolo, welcome to Turkey Central. I'm sorry to hear about your problem, unfortunately I'm not a lawyer and don't have any experience of divorce in Turkey but there are a few good lawyers who subscribe to these topics in the Law forums so I expect that you will get some answers when they are back at work tomorrow.

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Dear RockoRolo,

Welcome to our friendly forum.

If your husband openned divorce case, a divorce decree cannot be given without your knowledge. Court papers first should be delivered to your address in UK. 

Regarding to the property in Fethiye in joint names, if you'd like to sell it, then you should give an opportunity to your husband to match a price at which a third party agrees to buy. In other words, you must give your husband holding the %50 of the title deed first option to buy your share.

Yes, you have a right for alimony for the kids as well.

Kind Regards,

Av. Merve Balin


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