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Hey guys,

I lent my ex boyfriend quite big amount of money 2500 euro for his debts( he was saying that). .Not more than month after when  I came back from visit in Turkey he stopped to talk to me. I found out he is with sb else some local girl. I asked him to pay me back my money, cause I need them. We didn't get senet or any other legal document. We agreed that he ll pay me back in August but if I need me money he ll arrange earlier. We had a big fight cause I asked him for at least 1000 now cause I needed them and at the end we said lots of bad words to each other I told him I ll take steps to get my money back he got really angry he said he is not paying me back anything now... My question is... I have all our conversations, proofs of transfer from my bank and bank in Turkey but not legal document. What can I do to get it and what are my chances ? I don't know Turkish law but how it works there? Or if I report him to the police in August if he wont pay there are any chance?  I know he has already lots of problems and police knows abt him he has also few cases in court... I m just very disappointed with his behaviour he is very mean, offends me and very very rude... Any adviceanybody what can I do? Thank You in advance...

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Hello MadamM

 

Welcome to the Forum and my sympathy

 

You will have to engage a lawyer and go to the courts for the money. IF (a very big IF) you win and your exBF has any assets you might get the money back.

 

I lent money (a large amount) to my brother in law on the recommendation of my wife - he did not pay and kept putting it off. Finally we took him to court (which also cost us money) - won the case - but as he has no assets - we are still waiting for the money - I have written it off and put it down to experience.

 

As it was my wife's family it nearly wrecked our marriage - but we managed to overcome the loss.

 

I would write it off - there only disappointment ahead of you if you pursue it

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I m sorry to hear that :(  I ll try to solve that nicely with him and wait maybe he ll show some human nature...but I doubt it... I have one more question how much does it cost to open that kind of case in Turkish court? I wonder if amount to pay for lawyer woudnet be more that he actually owes me but its really tough to let this kind of person behave that way...

thakns for ur reply:)

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Cost approx 1500 USD over 2 years - Turkish courts are incredibly slow

 

The money involve was 10,500 USD

 

However our marriage ( and son) was more important than the money

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People that borrow money can't pay back especially if they are in debt. If they can't pay their debts, they won't be able to pay you either. If they borrow with the intention to invest only then you have a chance to be repaid. I have lent to people also & had to end up just letting it go as a loss. Posted Image

 

I've never lost money to a Turk though, but if I did I would get the police to visit their home regularly to ask for payments so the whole neighbourhood could see. Posted Image Family Honour is a big thing in these communites. The shame would be immense. It's so wrong to take advantage of someone who's willing to help you. It's also very dumb.

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Thanks guys once more. I really hope he ll pay it soon as he was saying. The thing is this guy is pretending like he is not scared of anything saying do what u f**k*ng do when I say I did some steps to get my money so I m shocked with his behaviour. He keeps offending me knowing everything was his fault and I don't get this kind of behaviour...towards sb who helped... You re right I know honor its a big thing and it cost more than that money... I ll try to talk to him again nicely when the time of payment ll come and ll see if its not working I ll involve the police I guess:)

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I would get the police to visit their home regularly to ask for payments

 

if its not working I ll involve the police I guess

 

Police will not get involved in civil disputes. Unless you know someone.

 

Besides you are yabancis and the system is stacked against you.

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I'm sorry to say this, but you will never see your money again. It's obvious he used to just to get that money. Anyway I hope you find a way to make him pay one way or another.

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I agree. It is very common to not be paid back after loaning money in Turkey, unless you have a senet. Even then it can be a real hassle. The last Turk who asked me to loan him money, I told him that I would give him $2,000 USD if he would do something for me. He said yes of course. I told him to go get all of the money I had loaned to all of the other Turks, and I would give him half of it. He didn't take me up on the offer. Of course I am generalizing here and I apologize if I've offended any Turks reading this, but I think that even lots of Turks would agree with me. It's just the way things are here.

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Hhhm great idea Ken! Posted Image you offered him a freelance job as a debt collector & he refused!. Don't want to work for the money he needs huh'. If he comes back again tell him; I'm not your daddy, Baba Yok! Posted Image

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Posted Image

 

It's also a good idea to always have a reason for not loaning money, especially when it's a "friend" who wants to borrow it. Always have a sudden emergency handy that is worse than theirs, like a huge bill for back taxes you didn't know you owed.

 

The money-loaning scheme is terrible around Incirlik Air Base. Some of these guys in the alley know they have a long time to get to know you, and do "nice" things for you, befriend you, etc... before they have an emergency which is often around the same amount you can take out of the ATM at one go.

 

One guy in particular I loaned money to because he and his family were going to get kicked out of their apartment. Later I saw him talking to a military guy. I asked the military guy if he had gotten the same story and if he had also loaned him money. Sure enough, he had. I wonder how much he makes every year from doing this to foreigners.

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