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Hi Everyone!

I am new to this forum and so very glad that I found it. 

 

I need some advice for those of you who are living in turkey regarding your observations of how Turkish men interact with African American/black women.

 

I'm an American black women who recently visited Turkey for the first time. My overall experience was very positive...I fell in love with all the culture and history in Turkey.  I met a Turkish man in Istanbul who seemed really sweet and sincere. Although I honestly have no way of proving that his intentions are honorable, because I really don't know him that well.

 

My question is, how are black people 'viewed' by Turkish people? I asked my friend how his family would respond to him dating a black woman and his reply was that "his family liked black people." Can this be true. The reason I am somewhat skeptical has to do with the history of racism in America and how in some parts of the states interracial couples are not necessarily well received. Especially in the South where I live. 

 

Any insight would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks in advance for your feedback Posted Image

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Cool question.

 

There are not that many other races there, so they can't be that prejudiced, since they've nothing to base their opinion.  I'd think the religion would come up more than skin color.

 

You may find this ineresting, but my husband says that Turkey's view of American Blacks are that of Hollywood and rap videos.  Many Black actors are very funny and charismatic and cool and fashionable.  All are Chris Rock, Will Smith and Jay-Z.  Quite different from the South, huh?

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I personally think it comes down to the the views of that person. Here in the UK there is still lost of racism against blacks, Muslim and white people. I don't think you can label a whole country as racist?A good friend of ours married a black woman from Kenya and his family were skeptical not if her colour but the age gap she is 20 years his junior. It's never been about race.I agree with tatertot you might get more resistance if you have strong opposite religious views. But then u wouldn't match up as a pair if that was the case.I don't think you'll be able to tell unless you spend time with him and his family.Hope that helps xx

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Thank you Linda and TaterTot! I appreciate the feedback. I know that you cannot make generalized assumptions about a whole country. I saw a couple of black people while I was in Istanbul, none when I was in the Cappadocia region and none while in Izmir so I was curious if there was a preconceived notion about black people in Turkey. 

 

Regards! Posted Image

 

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well you are right there. There aren't many black people in general in Turkey. Whether this is something to do with history or just coincidence I don't know. I'll mention it to my partner tonight see what his reaction is. He as never come across as racist mainly because he'd be hypocritical as he hates it when people judge him just because he is muslim. If I had a £1 for every time I told someone my partner is Turkish and got the reply 'oh so did you have to convert!' I'd be a millionaire (not quite but you get it lol)

 

I'll see if I can dig out anything from his reactions.

 

Hugs xx

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In a way, I'd examine how you'd feel being the only one.  Maybe it would make you uncomfortable???  I know many Black people who only associate with other Blacks... the whole lunch table phenomenon.  I know I'm totally rushing it, but how would you feel being the only non-Turk AND having no other Black people???  Heck, I'm WHITE and kind of look Turkish, but at times, it's STILL overwhelming!

 

We'll eventually move to Turkey, and it does kind of freak me out that they'll be no Mexicans or Indians around.  Just Turkish culture!  Granted, it's a great culture, but how will I adjust without hearing my neighbor's music blaring Sunday afternoon when they're having their fiestas and how will I function without my weekly samosa/curry fix?

 

Then again, the South can be really racist, so you may enjoy the change.  You'll be the special one for once!  : )

 

It's a lot to consider.

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Hi Happyinsc, welcome to the forum!  You may find that Turks tend to stare a bit ---- not out of rudeness, but more of curiosity.  This is because black people aren't very common in Turkey --- not anywhere near as much as in the US or UK.

 

You may wish to take a look at this link : http://www.turkeycentral.com/topic/11628-being-black-in-turkey/?hl=%2Bbeing+%2Bblack+%2Bin+%2Bturkey

 

I hope you enjoy our forum, and let us know how you go! :)

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Hey honey.I spoke to my partner and he said in Istanbul you would be fine there's lost of mixture of races and cultures. Interestingly before I said it was Istanbul I asked in general and he said the same as Meral that if they see something to them that is strange they might stare but its out of interest rather than any negative reason.Hope that puts your mind at ease a bitLinda xx

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We did have a black lady on the forum some time ago who said she felt uncomfortable because so many people stared at her, but as you said, it was mainly curiosity.

I do know of a Turk who married a black English lady and his family wouldn't have anything to do with him for a long time but they eventually came around when the couple had children.

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We did have a black lady on the forum some time ago who said she felt uncomfortable because so many people stared at her, but as you said, it was mainly curiosity.

I do know of a Turk who married a black English lady and his family wouldn't have anything to do with him for a long time but they eventually came around when the couple had children.

very interesting Sunny...thanks this is what I was after....just wondering how well a black woman Turkish man relationship would be perceived. Thanks so much!!

Hey honey.I spoke to my partner and he said in Istanbul you would be fine there's lost of mixture of races and cultures.Interestingly before I said it was Istanbul I asked in general and he said the same as Meral that if they see something to them that is strange they might stare but its out of interest rather than any negative reason.Hope that puts your mind at ease a bitLinda xx

Thanks so much Linda!! Great information...glad to know that any staring would be just curiosity and not something sinister. Thanks for asking your honey about this for me!!

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