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Hello Everyone, I became friends with a Turkish man online. Actually, it was through a language exchange app. We both are students. He is 3 years younger than me. He is currently studying in a military school. Fast forward - Within a few days of talking he confessed of having feelings for me.(We were not able to talk for 2-3 days so he realised it at that time) I told him that he might be infatuated but he said that it was love and he thinks of marrying me in the near future. (I still don't take it seriously) He said that he has talked about me to his sister too. It has been just 1 month but I really like talking to him. Recently he was not able to contact me so I became really worried and now it feels like, if I keep talking to him then I might fall for him. It is emotionally draining as we have never met. I have so much of trust issues and this is the reason that I have not yet given my number to him. (He asked me once but when I refused he didn't insist on it) I wanted to stop talking to him when I realised that I am getting attached (It is hard for me) but he insisted on staying as he loved me and all. I know he is not a scam as he had sent me pictures from his school so atleast I know that his information is genuine. The only thing is that he doesn't use any social media so I get more trust issues.(He said that he doesn't like using it for some reason) All I want to know is, What should I ask him to do to make me believe me? I am not good at dating. I get attached to people easily. I have read so many stories on how some Turkish men just flirt with foreign women and how good they are at talking ( I am from a third world country so the question of Visa doesn't stand here)
Dear Sir/Madam: Greetings! I am a woman who fell in-love with a Turkish man. I met him through a dating site, we chat, skyped until a relationship was developed. The relationship is just about months. He is 27 years old and he is in his last year for doctorate. The relationship was going smoothly until just this June first. I do not know anything about his personal life. Because whenever I asked he was telling me to stop. He said not to asked to much just love and trust him. All I know is that they are five siblings in the family. He's the middle child. His parents are both doctors and very strict. Out of boredom the night of May 31, I just googled his name and popped up all the names with his surname. There was this Doctor's name that caught my attention, I open the web and he looked like him. Other than that, I found out that he was on other dating site. But I concluded that they were not active. I was happy and excited to tell him about this Doctor because I'm sure that he was his father. But to my surprised when I texted about it, he got so mad at me and asked me how I got that name. When I told him, he keeps on telling me that I do not trust him why I have to googled his name. He said that the dating site where I saw his pictures was not active anymore, which I believed he was telling me the truth. What just bothered me why he has to me that mad to me because I asked about his father. He told me never to talked to his father and not even one of the member of his family. Which I said I will never do such things because first they do not know me at all and I do not have any business on why I have to message message them in the first place. And I respect his privacy. Because of what he had showed me, I even have the reason to doubt then that I asked him if he has something to confess me. I asked him if is he engaged or into a fixed marriage. He said he was single. He said if I don't trust him, leave. I was trying to explain to him that what I did is just the same thing that he googled me and even told me of seeing my pictures. But its okay with me. I told him he can even google me if he wants to. I don't see any harm. He was really furioused and he said he can kill me at that very moment. Thats it and I said I must really end the relationship. Just because of that issue he can tell me that he wants to kill me? I was really hurt. And when he calm down, he was like telling me now that he really doesn't want to be a doctor but a theology professor. And if he will do that then he will not be allowed to talk to foreign women. He said that he loves me but he can't marry like he used to tell me. He said his family doesn't like him to be married with foreign women which I guess contradicted to what he answered me when I asked him that his parents might not like me because I'm a Catholic. He said that they are good person. At this moment I am still hurting. I looked forward that I will be meeting him next month. Which I guess by now will just remain an illusion. I regret that I asked but on the other hand I don't see problem of my asking. Sooner or later I will still ask him. Please tell me did I really asked beyond his boundary? Or I have to accept my instinct that he may be in a fix marriage or he was keeping something from me? Why all of a sudden he wants to be a professor and not a doctor like his father? Thank you for your time to read my letter and I will appreciate your prompt reply. Seth28