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Hi. I need some advices. To make the story short; I met a turkish man in May in Alanya. Met, of course, at a club. He was in Alanya at a holiday. We had a great week together and I went back to Turkey in September to meet him. I had my sister with me. We stayed in Alanya again. I am going back in November to meet his family and I am staying in Turkey for two more weeks. I ahve told him that before we do anything he has to visit me in Norway and meet my family also. So he can meet them and also get a more understanding of where I come from and my culture. And if we ever going to move here (if not I moving to Turkey) he can see how the country is first. I am 29 and he is 32 years old. We have been talking about what we should do, b/c if the relationship should work for å long time one of us got to move. I am a social worker and I don't know how to speak turkish (but I can learn), so I think it will be hard for me to get work in Turkey. But in Norway... if you want to get a job you almost need an education 99% of the time. So I think it would be hard for him to get a job here. And he need to learn Norwegain of course. The one thing that scares me is to not know. Should I let go of my life here, sell my apartment, quit my job to an uncertain future? Or should he? I also have study loan that I need to pay, so I need a job if I am moving to Turkey in the future. I can't ask him to pay for my debt. But I think I have found a middleway I have the right to get unpaid permition from work if I want to study some more. I can study online. I was thinking of Sociology or maybe Journalism for one year. I can rent out my apartment for a year and live in Turkey. I will, of course, get more study loan. I not shure if I can get a visa for a year? But then me and my boyfriend will figure out if we are right for eachother, the normal - everyday life we will experience together ++. And if I do this next autumn I think I have what I need with the salary per year ++ if we want to move to Norway and he must apply for a visa. I don't know... I haven't told him about my idea yet. He wants us to get married and say that we can live in Turkey or Norway. It is up to me where we are going to live. When I go back in November we have to figure this out. What should we do? What have you been doing if you have been in a relationship with someone who lives in a different country? I will be happy for the respons and advice from you! Anything will help because I am lost and my brain is tired of all the thinking. PS! This wasn't so short after all. Sorry about that!