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Hi there, I am in an odd and uncomfortable situation and I need some advice. My wife of 17 years and I are having great difficulty, and she is considering abandoning me and our son (he's 34, from her first marriage, and lives with us, and we get along fine). We were legally married in Istanbul. We still all live in California for now. She is making threats against my assets, saying things like Divorcing, but also saying she would just leave and deny Divorce, but still would get half of all my assets. It's unclear what she actually wants as she doesn't really know herself and we both get very emotional when the topic comes up. I still love her dearly and am very distressed about her unhappiness, and am more than willing to try anything to make her happy, so of course I don't want a Divorce. Background - she is still grieving over the recent loss of both parents due to natural causes, and very distressed over the lack of emotional support from my own family. In fact, I am happy to give her *some* money, on the order of maybe $50000 USD, much less than she has in mind, if she actually manages to force a Divorce with me. But I have no idea how she could actually sit down with me and negotiate this number, as she is way too emotional and gets agitated whenever the topic comes up. Again, I really want to Reconcile. My question, in general, is, how much power does she have in this situation? What could she possibly have Turkish Lawyers do to me? Can she actually force a Divorce with me, from Istanbul? Does she have legal claim on my assets? A lot of my assets I accrued before we were Married. Thanks for any input /advice.
Hi there I hope someone can help me. I am a British Citizen and I married a Turkish man in Fethiye in 2000. We had two children together (girls, now 16 and 14 - they were both born in the UK). We bought an apartment together in Fethiye in 2001 and lived in Turkey. Both names are on the tapu. After 14 years of marriage, in early 2014, I found out many awful things about my husband - he was having a 3 year affair with a local girl who worked at the cinema, he was also using prostitutes and filming himself (I found the camera), he was watching teenage pornography and in thousands of debt without my knowledge, had a gun in the house, plus many other things. After he knew I found out about all this, he just blamed me for his behaviour. I knew for my sanity and my children's safety that I had to leave. On the evening of 13th June 2014, my children and I got to Dalaman airport without my husband knowing and we boarded a plane to the UK. I left my house, my job, my friends, we left everything behind. I wrote a letter to my English neighbours explaining why I was leaving. I brought everything with me - I have the marriage certificate, the tapu, the camera and all the evidence of his unreasonable behaviour etc. It is now 2017 and my girls and I have never gone back to Turkey. We are now settled in the UK. The girls rarely speak to their father. However... I have heard a rumour that he has recently divorced me over in Turkey - probably on the grounds of desertion. After all, it has been over two years since I left and I have not had the money to have ever asked a solicitor in the UK for help with it. My ex husband will not answer my FB messages whether he has divorced me or not, but he has been asking my daughter for our address. My question is: How has he managed to get a judge to grant the divorce when there is property or children involved? What happens now in regards to the apartment if he has divorced me? Can I instruct a solicitor here or in Turkey to sell the apartment because half of it is mine still? He has never paid any child maintenance while I have been in the UK. I want the value of my half of the apartment back because as far as I know he is living it in without any worries now. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you x