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Today a very good friend of mine texted me, asking me to lend him some money. Normally I don't hesitate much if the amount is acceptable since he is a really good friend. We have a long history of friendship and our homes are very close to each other. But I was still shocked when he asked for 20,000 dollars. 20,000 dollars may not be a very huge amount but it is not a small amount anyway. I never mean to doubt him. I believe him. I really do. But I had experienced several times when some "friends" borrowed money from me and they never bothered to pay back, and I was too ashamed to ask my money back. It was just several thousand so later I decided to just let it go. When it comes to this amount, these memories start to haunt me. I was quite panicked when he asked for loan from me and somehow I said yes. But now I start to worry. I wanted to keep my promise but I also worry about wasting money and losing friendship at the same time. But if I don't lend this money to him, our friendship is still at risk. He said he is going to pay me back after a while (he didn't specify when). Then I did a little calculation based on his earnings, and the numbers don't really match. It literally will take ages for him to accumulate this amount of money. So... I would like to hear your opinion about this situation. Should I lend him money or not? I am feeling quite guilty now because somehow I sound like not trusting him. Does this really make me an awful friend? PS: I did ask what he need this money for. He said he bought a house but he used his credit card for his down payment. He has to pay back this money before the interest-free period expires.