Since I don't plan on getting married again (one failed marriage is enough for me in this lifetime) or having children, this topic might not apply to me but I thought I'd put my two cents in anyway. I can't speak for how tolerant Muslim men and women are in Turkey (although I did go out with a Turkish guy a couple of times, which was a disaster. The story is quite funny though. Maybe I'll tell y'all about it some other time.), but I do know the seeming difference here in America. Now I do live in an area known as the "Buckle of the Bible Belt", so most people here are Christians of some flavor or another. We do, however, have quite a few Muslims, Buddhists, Pagans and other religions here in my town (being the big college town that it is). From what I have observed and what I have personally experienced, I think that women of whatever religious background are generally (and I do mean very generally) more tolerant than men when it comes to this topic in a relationship. I don't mean to offend or pigeon hole any of you men, but from my experience here in Arkansas it does seem true. I'm a Heathen. I worship the gods of my long dead ancestors from northern Europe. [And whatever you might read about us online, we aren't all racist hate-mongers. I don't associate with those people. As was stated previously in someone else's post, there are fanatics who make things ugly in any religion.] I did not grow up with this religion. I grew up in a very strict Southern Baptist home, but it never felt right to me. I searched for years for a source of spirituality that felt natural to me, one that didn't force me to change who I was fundamentally. I found that in Heathenism (aka Asatru). When I say I'm a Viking at heart, I truly am. Not in the 'rape, pillage & plunder' way that most people think of the Vikings. Being a Heathen is about being an honorable, family-oriented, truthful, fun-loving kind of person. Among our various social circles, we are the folks who can be counted on to get things done because we are pretty dependable, down to earth people. Now as much as most guys think that's kinda cool, they don't want to have to explain it to their mothers. On the other hand, I've seen several of my kindred brothers date women who were very strict Christians and even a couple of Muslim ladies with no problem. I know for sure that the one kindred brother of mine who goes through women like he does socks, states right up front "I'm a Heathen. If you aren't cool with that, look elsewhere." And still women who have made names for themselves in their Christian communities flock to him in droves. He certainly isn't much of a looker and I'm not sure what lines he's using on them, but he's never without a woman. As soon as I mention that I'm a Heathen to a perspective beaux, he's running away. My kindred sisters seem to have this problem too. I just honestly think that most men are more rigid in their thinking than women on the subject of religion. Or maybe its the difference in the way the sexes think (i.e. some women think they can change their man after they're married). Perhaps that's a sociological or evolutionary development in human beings that is hardwired into us. I don't know.
Again, you can take my opinion with a grain of salt. And I hope I don't offend anyone with my humble opinions. I'm not an expert in anything apart from early medieval textile and fashion history and how to make a perfect pan of cornbread.