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  1. I wanted to revisit this post as for the 1st time since i fell in love here i feel hope again and this emotion inspires me... Hope for Turkey & hope for the future generations in Turkey that they can read anything, write anything & share anything without fear. When i originally thought about the books i may or may not have read while being in the UK i guess i didnt realise how reading/writing really means personal freedom...just the fact i could dream i would be a writer or an Artist or act in films about anything or anyone...the open possibility of my future i took for granted as a given. Now i have a small son i wonder while being here in Turkey can he feel the freedom i felt /have the same opportunites or express himself the way i could in writen /spoken or artistic format. As parents we can do our best to share/teach/inform/warn but if the system is at odds with your thinking this is a very confusing existence. I love Turkey & i wish its creative minds a long open road to success :-)
  2. so bloody true..i blame my English teacher she was always messin´ with my mind & then i didnt even mention the RE lessons i took at GCSE & A level our lessons were total holocaust & 2nd world war overload..in my opinion.. i mean many of us were in tears lesson on lesson...ok need to know info & all but was really intense and mind blowing for an already half depressed group of teens ... oh and aids ads my god they also totally blew a fair bit of us away..does anyone else remember the tomb stone?!...i mean i cant have been the only one who thought jesus whats the point!! thank god for Love & hope hey! i also read to much Patrick Süskind which really didnt help my moods at times!!
  3. a book that totally turned my teenage angst into an even deeper sadness for the world was Z for Zachariah It actually deepened my already dark thoughts and somehow didnt help me see much light at the time....also had some personal life experiences that made it darker but maybe its my character to see the bad in things...(interestingly saw there will be a film adaption of this book!!). Ive always been told i see the bad side and think too dark but i see my self as a realist...nothing inspired me to come to Turkey as such..i wanted to go to Egypt but my friends encourage me to try Turkey 'it was cheaper ´they said...then i fell in love in 24 hrs of being here (with a man) but seeing it as real love (see im a realist) almost in days...call it gut instinct too for luck...i said bugger it i can live here..ok so took me a yr to leave job & get job here & move over FT but it was the ´bugger it ,do it we could all die tomorrow ´attitude i had at that time & at many times in my life & sometimes thats been the best way to go though life for myself anyway... and that as it says on topsy & tim on my sons fav prog. was that! :-)
  4. id love to be a fly on the wall where sex ed is concerned in households....or even schools or medical arenas, i bet the use of the morning after pill or overuse of it even in married life is an issue...im not a medical practioner but i am very interested in whats available to young women married or otherwise in Turkey. I also told my partner back in the days to get tested for whatever as i had just had a checkup at the end of a relationship to set my own mind at rest. We also had tests i recal at a local hospital in order to get married...all of which i thought a good idea (but i think was to find out that we were not related?! ) anyway was told HIV test was optional at that time but did anyway. Anyway i dont have a girl of my own but if in the villages even talking about periods or pads is an issue at times how the hell do these women cope with more intense subjects with male counterparts. Access to help,advice, support or treatment or med info was sooo easy in the UK...i havent ever been to a uni here myself but what do they offer students in term of what i mentioned..anyone know? am curious ...
  5. who needs new when u can find nearly new /2nd hand :-))) its how i feed my wardrobe on a budget....oh how i miss the uk charity shops soooo badly!! ebay also priceless :-)
  6. ´confused & struggling´ now u said ..what would it be like further down the line...sounds like somethings not right to me...if not right now i doubt it ever will be. Anything that needs over justifying by yourself isnt worth fighting for in my opinion. U may feel love for him but as someone mentioned above actions/honesty priceless in this situation. Why would someone want such complexities in their life? even just being in love with someone outside your own country is complex enough let alone dealing with someone with such a complex past. good luck :-)
  7. hes not only funny hes handsome!! nice combo..hilarious. thanks for link Fil.
  8. hi again, i have only Taught in the sticks in Turkey, never a big city although i used to in London where i am from, i didnt meet many ambitious students who were goal orientated, maybe only 3 that i clearly remember. I also taught adults ,young adults and children and the adults had busy lives and were often sent by employers so were cramming in lessons and often had to put work/family before learning/lessons so attendance was random, the younger students were dead tired from being sent to dershane constantly to pass exams and many of the younger children were out of their depth as noone at home cared about homework set or their progress in real terms, just kept asking when will they start to speak English... I wonder what it must be like in big cities here..cant be worse than London regarding class management but i wouldnt fancy doing that again any time soon! I hope you get many a motivated student ;-) let us know how u go..am curious :-)
  9. oh no leos...the most trouble and intense moments i have had in he past and actually am still having is with this sign!!! i didnt have time to look at link above but i am a Gemini and a rather typical one at that....
  10. wow thats a good wage if after tax...in the sticks u get bugger all i think. I would say classroom management isnt always the main issue it maybe the students poor home study skills or the unrealistic parental expectations or for example the students lack of lateral thinking ....if you dont speak any Turkish i think this is more ideal as your brain will just work in one language and thats what you will teach! I think some Turkish students who have had Turkish English teachers will have a shock when they hear accent changes and have to speak just in the one language in class... If they have been used to having an English English teacher already this may not be the case. I dont know anyone who comes from or lives in Bursa but i hear its very nice as cities go. Wish you luck and hope the management are good and you find suitable accommodation. ;-)) (maybe the rent is high in Bursa this is why the wages are higher than i am used to seeing/hearing about)
  11. Sunny put me on the list for being there is spirit...i so need a trip over there again to test if i have any brain cells left after having my son...it seems not..or so im reminded on a daily basis!! anyway by 8.30 i cant even spell my own name...presuming u drink while playing id be alseep under the table by 9!! :-))
  12. i so wish i had time to reread this topic as been a while :-))) but my son has worn me out as ever hence not posting much......well we r still going strong me & my husband and he is still as hard working as ever and i can say i was lucky :-) dont know your set up but wish u well Danielleat. Emreoz where is that comment you would add ......just curious :-))))
  13. hello back, great reply again thank you...really settles my nerves. BUT now i have been given two other offers in one week and now i am totally confused! I think i have to go with the creche options in the end as i cannot afford to pay for childcare if i take anything else..... The main issue i think is that parents dont pay much here in our area for daycare so wages are low..but in this case there would be a dual purpose to work. I do want to say though however and i know we had a thread on this in past years that Turkish children often (to me anyhow) seem to be the sit tight when told and behave sort of children and often get praised for being quiet and calm. My son is none of the above and my new worry is that my very active child will reflect in some way on my parenting/teaching skills at work....i kind of feel i will be judged in more ways that one but i suppose this fear is normal.. .what i think i am trying to say is i praise my son for maybe different things and dont worry or panick at small things so he is a fairly free spirit. I am often told at the park for example that i seemed to have overlooked a particular danger or that my son is hyperactive..to which i generally try to say nothing (sure you can guess what i would like to say!)... .anyway my son is calling and i have to go but i will surely be back!....the noticable differences between turkish and English parental styles would be a good area to discuss!!
  14. Hi Fil as ever your replies always get my mind going in a good way as to what to think, look for and consider..thanks for that. I also think the social factor is the main reason i would even consider to send him PT from 2 yrs old...also that i want to work maybe in the same place he attends... i didnt expect to breast feed this long so this has been one reason we have been tied to each other in some ways longer than i would have liked...he doesnt venture far from me for this reason. I am very curious and almost ready to try to experient with distance apart and wonder will he love or loath it! i promise myself i wont be offended if he loves it!! I am also unclear what to expect if teaching (playing in English) with under 6's and am forever fearful of pressing parents who generally expect way too much of teacher and child where learning progress is concerned...(but also often not bothering to cover any continued study at home where lingo is concerned).... anyway much to consider...oh to be a fly on the wall eh at this point! GDB 1000tl is a big sum for us nowhere near realistic sadly for our budget. One would hope at that price a child would indeed enjoy themselves :-)) i think its difficult to know ones worth if infact the creche will be taking care of your child at the same time you work there. Indeed if i dont end up working in one i wonder will i trust people as easily with my child while not being on the inside as such. My husband says there is no reason to send a child to creche if the mother isnt working....i dont have an argument for that i just tell him when we are out its clear my son wants to speak to anyone he sees i see that as a clear sign me and him can now have private time apart!!! cant justify paying for this though unless working..so we will see!!....
  15. ok so its time to start thinking about what does a child need from a creche and also what would a mum expect to get out of sending a child to creche either PT or FT. i think in my case i am lucky as i dont need to send my child but i may want to eventually for his own social /personal development. Just wondered - what makes a good creche? for us location matters and of course price (which i imagine varies greatly for what reasons i dont know didnt think yet.....) having not taught under 5's as such its a new world to me.... anything anyone has to share on this subject i would be interested to read... Anyone any experience of sending their dual citizen babe to an All turk creche? Also wondering what people think about teaching in one (English) ? what to expect...i have always said no but i see advantages in doing so now my son is nearing creche going age (almost )himself ;-) TIA
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