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  1. Well, now I feel awkward for whining about my 3.5 hours flight from London...
  2. Hi... okay so, I don't want to add a further dampener on things (yes, I think you should stay the hell away from this guy) but it's also quite common for Turkish men to change drastically the moment after they've married, for the worse. So, basically, this could just be the tip of the iceberg. Me and you are about the same age. If I were you, I would never be content with allowing my boyfriend to dictate what I wear or where I go - even being half Turkish. Pleaaase don't do it. I work with so many English/American girls who are young like you and have married Turks they barely knew and they hate it so much, but feel trapped or unwilling to walk away alone. You say if it fails you have friends and family to take you back, but you might not even be able to walk out like how you imagine. If you really love this guy and you really want to get married, at least give it a year or two. Test the waters. That might be enough time for everyone to show their true colours.
  3. been working as an ESL teacher in Turkey for 3 months now :)

  4. I take a taxi home every single day, and the one time the driver tried to rip me off was the one time I spoke English on the phone in front of him... yes, this does seem to be a "seems like a tourist" deal. I screamed at him in Turkish and he immediately knocked the price back to where it should be. Appearing to know exactly where you're going and how to get there does help. I saw on Scam City recently that taxi scams usually involve the driver placing notes under his leg "at the ready" to switch at a moment's notice. Something I always do is tell the driver that I only have a certain amount on me, and ask if that will be enough. That always seems to guarantee my fare stays as it should.
  5. Sorry, I'm not sure where to put this... but I was wondering if we could have a discussion about how to deal with harrassment on the streets of Turkey. I found it quite a minor thing during my last 3-month visit, but the few times I experienced it were scary and I wish I'd known how to deal with it. I put it down to the way I look and dress, because I have also experienced harrassment in the UK, too, but in the UK it's a lot easier for me to defend myself. I don't freeze up when someone touches me on the streets here, I hit them. But in Turkey, somehow, it seems different, and I can't seem to get the words out. I'm used to walking around Istanbul and being stared at and whistled at, people yelling "fistik" or actually saying to me "I want to f*ck you" or "are you a virgin". This is all innocuous to me. I was 17 last time, and I'm 21 now, and I've developed a hard attitude towards it, as long as it's all non-physical. But I never know how to react when touching starts. Two main incidents come to mind. They may both sound harmless. But they both made me feel threatened and tense, and made me freeze up and say nothing. Both happened on public transport. 1) I was on the bus in Istanbul, going from Taksim to Besiktas. I wasn't on my own, I had a male friend there with me. You know how the buses are jam-packed at the best of times, anyway, I was stood up, facing the window, holding onto one of the supports overhead. I felt someone's hand on hip, but ignored it, figuring they didn't realise they were touching me. Then their hand moved furthur down, and stayed there. The guy was kind of pressing himself into me. I tried to lean forwards slightly but there wasn't anywhere to move to. I also kept wanting to turn around and slap him off me but it just wasn't happening, the words weren't coming out. I don't even remember how it ended, but I think he got off at a stop before me, and the whole time I said nothing. 2) This one happened on the bus in Antalya. I wasn't alone this time, either, but the person I was with had gone furthur up the bus to talk to someone, iirc. Anyway, I was sitting alone, and I noticed a group of five men standing closeby talking, and a couple of them looking at me. I blew it off, whatever, I'm used to people staring at me here. But soon, they had moved closer, until all five were stood around me in a circle. It was literally like they'd trapped me, and I don't know why I didn't just stand up and push my way through them. But they were all staring down at me, and I remember being so freaked out, I couldn't even look up. I just stared at the ground until my stop came, and again, I don't remember how it ended then, either. This is so frustrating to me. I know how to say f*ck off, don't touch me, in Turkish, although I've never said it before. I say these things in English, in the UK, but something about being in Turkey seems to put me on lockdown and I don't hit out at anyone messing with me. What do you think people in this situation should do? I guess I need a bit of reassurance that I'm not pathetic for having this happened. It's very upsetting to just write it down even though it was a while ago, and I'm really hoping I can deal with this situation, should it arise again, this summer when I go back to Istanbul.
  6. Hi everyone, I've just about resurfaced after 2 and a half years of university, ready to leave England and its godawful job economy, to go back to Turkey which I miss with all my heart! My family are very set on me teaching English if I am to go back to Tr alone (aged 21). I'm just wondering if anyone actually in Tr can clear this up for me... what sort of job can I land in Tr with no actual job experience? I think I'd be suited to teaching English (although I've always been very firm about the fact that I do not want to be a general "all bases" teacher; English is my specialty, I suppose), but I know it's a very condensed and competitive job market in Tr, especially in Istanbul. Here's what I've got to offer: - I am a native speaker (British accent, with an "American edge"). - I hold a degree in Creative Writing from a reputable UK university. I think this is a subsidiary of English. This has given me copy-editing experience, so I'm pretty good at clearing up dodgy translations! - I also have a TEFL certificate (which only took 3 days to get). - I speak some Turkish, accented, but apparently my accent is non-traceable and "very close to the native accent". I do feel quite pressured by the family to snap myself up a "comfy" job at a university or something, but I don't think I'm qualified for that (do I need an MA or PhD?). I wouldn't say no, in fact I'd be amazed if it was possible. Finally, I'm not picky about which city I go to, but I wouldn't go anywhere East as I have no family there. I'm intending to go to Ankara first to stay with family as a smoother transition, and then move to Istanbul once my first year is up. Soooo that's it. I'm not sure what sort of job I can get any advice greatly appreciated!
  7. ESL Cafe has so much bad attitude about teaching in Turkey! IDK where to start now :(

  8. rl2342

    Hi Amy. Hope you are enjoying it here :)

  9. I've spent a few hours watching Ask-i Memnu (which, by the way, is just an awful awful show but it has the lovely Kivanc Tatilug in it ) and the characters kept saying what sounds like "Yog" (silent 'g') when saying "no". Almost like they start to say "Yok" but change their mind before the 'k', although contextually this wouldn't make sense. Is this a slang replacement for 'hayir'? Please enlighten me (Please excuse the misspellings, no Turkish keyboard here)
  10. what does söyleme mean?

    1. rl2342


      I will give this one a try^^ Since Söylemek=to tell, you add the suffix -me or -ma to make it a negative. (in this case -me because the last vowel is e) So söyleme would mean "Don't tell" I would guess.

    2. Amy


      that's what I thought, thanks :D i wondered if it's like "be silent" or "shut up"...

  11. I've lost contact with one of my cousins so I'm going to message my Aunt and ask her for his contact info but I want to do it in Turkish.. I also want my Turkish to be completely perfect. I'm very much a grammar fiend in English so to be as pedantic in my Turkish would be wonderful Could anyone please help me with getting the following message grammatically correct? I understand that my Turkish attempts are basic and don't include the modals, so if anyone could explain to me how modals like 'can't' works then that would be even better. Teyzem, Aunt, Facebook'da X bulmak deneyorum.. I am trying to find X on Facebook.. adı son biliyormisin? Do you know his last name? (I don't remember adjective rules here.. ack) Ankara'da cep telefon numeralar* verdik... (or how plurals work) In Ankara we swapped* telephone numbers... (*I couldn't work out how to use "swap" properly so I replaced it with vermek/to give) ..ama plajda antalya'da telefonım kaybettim. ..but I lost my phone on the beach in Antalya (lol true story) Y de bulmayorum I can't find Y either (which I just said I'm also not finding Dinemis, which is really not what I want to say. If anyone can tell me how to use "cannot"...) This is a slow and painful thing for me, regaining my fluency. Damnit. Why did I not study harder as a kid?? Thanks, guys x PS. Just to stress, she is my aunt so this should not be too formal. And if anyone can suggest any alternative phrases to what I have used, that's awesome
  12. whats the turkish word for 'overrated'? adjective, not verb :)

  13. I can't find this in ANY of my grammar or Turkish language books so I'll ask you wonderful people :How do you say "it's me" when someone answers the phone or intercom? For example:Person A: Alo? Person B: Merhaba, "(it's me/ it's Amy)"I always say "ben Amy" when I'm identifying myself on the phone but something tells me this isn't really sufficient I was wondering if you should say "dir" as in Amy'dir? What do you say when you're saying who you are?
  14. Hi everyone! My Turkish learning is going so badly so I really need some help translating a few sentences that expand on asking permission to stay with a family member. If anyone can help me translate the following I'd be really grateful! : - Please can I stay with you [for a few weeks] in April? - I want to fly to Ankara on 1st April. - I miss everyone so I would like to visit during vacation. - School begins again in May. - I am booking my flight to Ankara. Would you mind me staying with you? Thanks everyone! It's such a bummer to not be able to manage this myself :'( I'm looking at this grammar book but it's just confusing the hell out of me...!!
  15. This is just something I was thinking about earlier today and thought I'd ask about it, as I'm getting more and more into the cultural differences between Turkey and UK. I ran into a couple of old schoolfriends yesterday (both aged 19, as I am) and both of them have 2 children already, and one has a third on the way. I was quite appalled to be honest, not because they're not married but because neither of them seem to be able to support their children. Obviously here in the UK this is treated like the norm, but I mentioned this in passing to a (Turkish) family member earlier, and he said (quite rightly) "If you got pregnant now you'd be a disgrace to the family". So I'm wondering, are issues like unwed teenage pregnancy big in Turkey? How is it treated? How do people think of it? Is Turkey catching up with countries like the US and UK in this respect? How would a single pregnant woman/teenage girl be treated? What about the guy who got them pregnant? Any thoughts?
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