It is sad in any relationship life to discover that someone has used us. I do not think this is limited to Turkish men but that of people world- wide and men are not the only perpetrators. With all that being said, at some point, whether we are male or female, we are accountable as an adult for our own decisions and behavior. I do not think it would be appropriate at any time to start lending money to people you barely know or to think for one minute that this cannot happen to you. It happens. You as an adult always have to be aware and think logically and realistically. Middle age women or young women, be realistic, be accountable; you do not lend money to someone you barely know. I do not care how much you think you love someone. In reality how well can you love someone in a matter of weeks. Cinderella does not exist. From a world of experience, I would also say that thinking of loving or marrying someone of a different culture, religion or country has his drawbacks and I do not say that with a prejudicial thought pattern but one of a practical mind dealing with a realistic point of view. Marriage is difficult if you have the same beliefs and backgrounds. It is even more so when you have a vast array of different backgrounds. Most of all, you never change who you are for anybody. You listen to those little voices telling you that something isn't right and you NEVER lend money or sacrifice your job, your life, or your future to someone. If they were genuine they wouldn't ask.