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  1. Wanderlust, thank you so much for the information. As we have been able to Skype now, it is much easier to talk about our plans and such. To respond to some of your red flags... - He is talking about a wedding, and has said that he does not care if it is in my country or his country. See, his parents are both deceased, and he is alone there, no children. He never asked ME about coming to the US... I asked him, and he said, "wherever you are, I will go". In fact, he has never even visited the States, though he's traveled many places in Europe, so he doesn't yet know what it is like here
  2. Well hello all! So, it has been well over a year since I've posted here, but believe me, I haven't forgotten about this man, nor has he forgotten about me. Shortly after my last post in January last year, I started a dating and later was in a LTR with someone local here. This relationship did not work out. Over the course of that relationship, the Turkish man (we'll call him Metin, for sake of me repeating "the Turkish man ) and I have kept in touch. He knew of the relationship, I was very honest with him, and explained that I couldn't see a time when I could up and leave my kids and come over
  3. Quick update: We have still been talking on a daily basis. We were able to Skype once (finally) and that was wonderful. After asking more questions, I did find out that his mother is actually Chilean (not Indian - my brain messed that up from the accent, I can only guess). Neither of his parents are still living; however, he does have brothers and sisters, all older than he, who also reside in Turkey near him. He does live alone, and has said he would be willing to move here from Turkey if things continue develop for us (could this be for a Visa? Meh, idk...). Anyway, it has been nice having m
  4. GDB, thank you for the information. This is why I am here. I know very little, if anything, about the culture of other countries (I'm not very worldly), I just look at people as people and I think in most cases, that is a good thing. I definitely appreciate your input. I honestly have no idea if I will ever meet this man. I just know that he has captured my heart, which may have been his goal from the start. I hope not, but I'm also very aware that is a possibility. I'm going to take a few weeks and try to really think this through and figure out if this is worth putting any more of my heart a
  5. TaterTot - we are trying to get the Skype working. There is a problem on my end, so I'm trying a few other things. I do know that his wife has moved back to her home country (I can see her FB page so I know that) and he says the divorce is in process (her FB status now says "Separated"). I will ask to see his Kimlik. I probably could get my kids' dad to keep them while I "go on vacation". Does he need a visa to just come here and visit? I thought that was only if he was moving here, but I'm completely unknowledgable about these things. Thank you for your information. This is my worry. I h
  6. You all are right and I am suspicious just by nature. If something (or someone) seems too good to be true, it probably is. We have continued to talk but have not discussed any future plans at this point. I think this may just be entertainment. There's a part of me that believes that, and another part of me that I cannot shake that says this could be real. Believe me, if you knew me, you would know I am the most skeptical person when it comes to trusting other people. I think this is the reason for my dilemma. I would love to just pick up and go there for a week to find out, but at this time I
  7. cayaholic, he is 45. He does very little on facebook, other than play poker, which is how we met. The majority of his 100 or so friends appear to be mainly Turkish (people he works with) and relatives. When he is on facebook, day or night, he will message me and we will chat. That is not to be naieve and say he isn't doing the same with six other women... The jaded female in me is very suspicious. At the same time, the hopeless romantic wants this to be real. As I mentioned, I've sent him no money or anything, nor has he asked. He does make me feel good just with the things he says, and hone
  8. Destiny, Thank you for the advice. Yes, while I am being very cautious here, I cannot help what I'm feeling inside. I know it seems crazy to anyone who has never been in this situation (myself included). When we have talked about meeting, he is very open to me coming over there at any time. I, on the other hand, would me more comfortable with him coming to the US first. A single woman in a strange land is the stuff movies are made of. As I said before, he has not asked me for a thing, not one dime, and in fact, is very conscious of how long we talk on the phone because he doesn't want me to ha
  9. Good morning all - I am brand new here and hoping for some advice. I've seen a few postings on this same topic, but of course each situation is different. Let me start by saying I am a very level-headed, smart, put-together, established woman in the US. I can spot dishonesty a mile away. 6,000 miles away? I'm not so sure. I can't even believe I'm typing this, because I can't believe I have found myself in this predicament at this stage of my life (I am 42 years young). That all being said, I know next-to-nothing about the Turkish culture, other than the few things I've read about the men (
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