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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Ken Grubb in Turkish Mortgage for non - Turkish National   
    Hi Ken
    That's very kind of you! Thank you!
    Linda x
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Ken Grubb in Divorce Turkey - Question   
    We used a Turkish lawyer from turkishdivorce.com we had to have 2 POAs as neither side could go to Turkey at the time it costed us around £1500 in total each case is different though I guess. Could be less could be more
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    LindaAnneStaines reacted to ash88 in Tahir Ure turkish love rat, Beach House Cafe Bodrum   
    It really gets to me when people say to avoid men from touristic areas. Of course you are far more likely to find a scammer or love rat there. They have the opportunity to be introduced to European women there. You believe they are all in the touristic areas because that where we travel to. We don't meet the scammers in other areas... But I think you'll find that a lot of the online dating scammers are actually from very westrenised city areas.
     
    Why do women turn off their heads when it comes to these men? If you wouldn't accept something form a man in your own country, it's because you know that it's wrong... so why do you accept it from a turkish man?? I understand that these men have ways of making you feel special, but when you know that they have a reputation, it doesn't take a genius to realise that you should practice caution...
     
    My husband has never asked anyhting of me in the time that I have known him and despite looking out for every warning sign possible, he has never given me a reason to doubt him. He has never asked me for money (for himself or his family), I have never found out anything about him that he didn't already tell me, he wasn't already married, I have access to all of his accounts, facebook, email, telephone, twitter, etc. I have met all of his family from both Turkey and Germany. Yes he has joined me in England so you could say that he was just trying to get a visa from me... But even since we married he has always treated me with the utmost of love and respect. As soon as he was able to work, he went out and got himself a job and he works long hours, just to provide for us. I have never been made to feel more loved and confident in myself. And guess what.... I met him in BODRUM!
     
    Please ladies. Act with caution. I hate to see these stories because I hate that men prey on women's emotions and scam them or become somebody they weren't and begin controlling them, etc. And nobody hates it more than my husband. Whilst he was working in Bodrum (after I met him), I was contacted several times by a chef from the hotel that he worked at. Out of politeness I replied and asked Tugrul if he knew him. He didn't, but when he found out that he told me he "loved me" after never meeting me and despite me saying that I have a boyfriend, he confronted him. He warned him and told him to stop playing games. Again he messaged me, but he'd changed his name and all of his pictures on his profile. Only because I hadn't deleted my message history was it that I knew it was him. I didn't tell my husband as I didn't want him to do anything silly and lose his job.... But sure enough, one of Tugrul's friends (a guest at the hotel) told Tugrul that this new named guy had contacted his girlfriend too.... Tugrul immediately called me, made me tell him everything that he had said and send him the messages. He marched up to the hotel managers office with his chief and the guy was immediately dismissed. No pay for that month, no notice to serve and absolutely no job for next season and no reference.... It's harsh, but it meant that he wasn't in a position to prey on English women....
     
    I guess the moral of the story is to not lose your heads. If it seems off colour, it probably is. And if you wouldn't accept any behaviour from a man in your own country, do NOT accept it from a Turkish man.
     
    Turkey isn't the only place it happens. It just very popular destination at the moment. Have you not heard of the greasy italian waitor or the slimy spanish barman? Do you wantch Benidor? Turkey is not the only place where this sort of thing happens. They are just the people that everyone draws attention to at the moment. A friend of my family was conned out of thousands by a Morrocan man.... and it even happens in England, America, Germany! It happens everywhere so please don't tar all men with the same brush. It's biased! I would say to any woman meeting any man, from anywhere, act with caution and protect yourself. It's what we do in our own countries so we should do it with anyone else. A cultural difference is not an excuse to be treated badly or asked for money...
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from ash88 in Very early days but looking for advise   
    Hey HunCongratulations. Looks like u had the perfect day.
    Here's to a happy future for you both xx
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Goreme1990 in Dalaman airport to Marmaris   
    Bus from dalaman would take 10-12 hours visiting about 49tl. Depending on time of year flights are harder to get and obviously more expensive.
    Dalaman to marmaris is about an hour or so in the car. Taxi would be a bit more expensive but you can agree a price before u get in.
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    LindaAnneStaines reacted to ash88 in Positive story to share   
    I love this!! Wonderful news Linda! So good to hear some good news and positivity.
     
    An intelligent and lovely woman and now you can enjoy you rlife as husband and wife knowing that you have been through hell and back together and came out the other side better and stronger.
     
    I hope the visa situation clears itself up quickly so that you can get on with your lives together as a family
     
    Keep fighting honey.
     
    Take care xx
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Ken Grubb in Positive story to share   
    Hi everyone.
     
    I'm gonna keep this brief - some of you may already know my story but basically. I met my other half in Marmaris, yes the typical English girl meets barman/manager falls in love and wants to leave on the next flight to Turkey for good. Well life isn't that simple is it! Almost 3 years on and no permanent UK visa (whoever says it's easy to get one is lying!) 2 years to get a Turkish divorce after being told several different things. Not being able to give notice of marriage after being told you can't on a visitor visa (another misleading comment). Then finally finding a registry office that will accept it and booking a wedding less then 3 weeks ago! Me and my lovely man tied the knot!
     
    It was the best day ever!! and to make things even better our little boy is due in less then 4 weeks! Finally get to be a family! I'm now a Danış (which means information haha!) 
     
    Visa issues still going on but we are now husband and wife!!
     
    Fight for the things you love, follow your heart but use your head!
     
    Lindy xx
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from academylin in Positive story to share   
    Hi everyone.
     
    I'm gonna keep this brief - some of you may already know my story but basically. I met my other half in Marmaris, yes the typical English girl meets barman/manager falls in love and wants to leave on the next flight to Turkey for good. Well life isn't that simple is it! Almost 3 years on and no permanent UK visa (whoever says it's easy to get one is lying!) 2 years to get a Turkish divorce after being told several different things. Not being able to give notice of marriage after being told you can't on a visitor visa (another misleading comment). Then finally finding a registry office that will accept it and booking a wedding less then 3 weeks ago! Me and my lovely man tied the knot!
     
    It was the best day ever!! and to make things even better our little boy is due in less then 4 weeks! Finally get to be a family! I'm now a Danış (which means information haha!) 
     
    Visa issues still going on but we are now husband and wife!!
     
    Fight for the things you love, follow your heart but use your head!
     
    Lindy xx
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from ash88 in Positive story to share   
    Hi everyone.
     
    I'm gonna keep this brief - some of you may already know my story but basically. I met my other half in Marmaris, yes the typical English girl meets barman/manager falls in love and wants to leave on the next flight to Turkey for good. Well life isn't that simple is it! Almost 3 years on and no permanent UK visa (whoever says it's easy to get one is lying!) 2 years to get a Turkish divorce after being told several different things. Not being able to give notice of marriage after being told you can't on a visitor visa (another misleading comment). Then finally finding a registry office that will accept it and booking a wedding less then 3 weeks ago! Me and my lovely man tied the knot!
     
    It was the best day ever!! and to make things even better our little boy is due in less then 4 weeks! Finally get to be a family! I'm now a Danış (which means information haha!) 
     
    Visa issues still going on but we are now husband and wife!!
     
    Fight for the things you love, follow your heart but use your head!
     
    Lindy xx
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from cayaholic in Relationship between British girl & turkish guy Advice please   
    Tater tot - I don't mean to cause offence or start a row so please don't take this the wrong way but I was quite taken aback by your comments underneath my one. I know they weren't aimed at me but as open forum I'd like to respond.
    I think it was a bit harsh to say that Veronica is a magnet for drama. Considering you don't know her situation. I too was in a long relationship (8 years) with the person I thought I'd grow old with. That didn't work out and the next relationship also turned out to be slightly abusive. I didn't go looking for it! Not all people who live or work in tourist areas are uneducated. That is is a sweeping statement. I agree everyone should put themselves first and yes she is young however why should numbers get in the way of romance? What's to say it won't work out or will? Time off from men isn't necessarily the answer just be safe and don't rush into anything. If I took time out after my relationships I'd be 40 by the time I found someone!
    Just be safe
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    LindaAnneStaines reacted to Ken Grubb in 20 Days Overstay, Easiest Solutions? Please Help!   
    Unfortunately, there isn't. I have never heard of an extension on a visa and from what I hear, they don't exist.  You would have to leave before your 90 days is up, and you would not be able to return until another 90 days has passed. You can only stay in Turkey for 90 days in any 180 day period.
    If you did that, wouldn't you have to re-enter Turkey to take your flight back home? Unfortunately they wouldn't let you back in to the country if you have already stayed 90 days on a tourist visa within the previous 180 days.
    About the only thing you could do, I think, would be to change your flight ticket. If you overstayed, there would be a fine, and I don't know what that is, but it would probably be several hundred lira, and it would be illegal to do that.
    The only thing I could suggest is contact a Turkish embassy or consulate, I think it is doubtful they would make an exception, but you never know.
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Meral in Positive story to share   
    Hi everyone.
     
    I'm gonna keep this brief - some of you may already know my story but basically. I met my other half in Marmaris, yes the typical English girl meets barman/manager falls in love and wants to leave on the next flight to Turkey for good. Well life isn't that simple is it! Almost 3 years on and no permanent UK visa (whoever says it's easy to get one is lying!) 2 years to get a Turkish divorce after being told several different things. Not being able to give notice of marriage after being told you can't on a visitor visa (another misleading comment). Then finally finding a registry office that will accept it and booking a wedding less then 3 weeks ago! Me and my lovely man tied the knot!
     
    It was the best day ever!! and to make things even better our little boy is due in less then 4 weeks! Finally get to be a family! I'm now a Danış (which means information haha!) 
     
    Visa issues still going on but we are now husband and wife!!
     
    Fight for the things you love, follow your heart but use your head!
     
    Lindy xx
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Meral in Relationship between British girl & turkish guy Advice please   
    Hi and welcome.
    I would like to say I agree with the above but your story is similar to mine although I was 28 at the time. The one thing I did notice was that you mention his English wasn't fluent. Communication to me is a priority and although my other half's is excellent we still have our moments of miscommunication. You need to ask yourself are you doing this to find an excuse to get out of a relationship that's not working or do you have genuine feelings for this guy. The advice about actually being in a relationship mentioned above is good advice remain open eyed and move forward with caution.
    My story in brief - met in Marmaris (was in a horrible relationship) continued to see each other. He came over on a visitor visa - long story short 3 years later we tied the knot yesterday and couldn't be happier! Little baby on the way too! There are some happy endings xx
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Ken Grubb in Relationship between British girl & turkish guy Advice please   
    Hi and welcome.
    I would like to say I agree with the above but your story is similar to mine although I was 28 at the time. The one thing I did notice was that you mention his English wasn't fluent. Communication to me is a priority and although my other half's is excellent we still have our moments of miscommunication. You need to ask yourself are you doing this to find an excuse to get out of a relationship that's not working or do you have genuine feelings for this guy. The advice about actually being in a relationship mentioned above is good advice remain open eyed and move forward with caution.
    My story in brief - met in Marmaris (was in a horrible relationship) continued to see each other. He came over on a visitor visa - long story short 3 years later we tied the knot yesterday and couldn't be happier! Little baby on the way too! There are some happy endings xx
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Ken Grubb in Turkish TV in uk   
    Thanks KenSorry for late reply been one of those weeks!
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    LindaAnneStaines reacted to Ken Grubb in Turkish TV in uk   
    I don't know about getting it without the dish but you can get it over the internet, there are a few links to do so at the bottom of this article:
    Turkish Television
    That's all I know to suggest.
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from ash88 in Very early days but looking for advise   
    Hey honey.
     
    Glad you had a good time! Fingers crossed for you about the visa! I know how stressful that it is! (Will PM you an update!)
     
    I can't wait to get back out there! Hugs, 
     
    Linda
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from setaya in Turkish father but never registered   
    HiSorry I don't know the answer I was going to suggest contacting the consulate. Maybe make an appointment to go in person? Or could your family in Turkey look into it? I think you can get registered as an adult if you have proof of birth and fathers birth certificate. Might be easier to do it there rather than over here in Uk. Like u said u might have to go through the procedure like a foreigner (married to a Turk etc) in which you'd need to be fluent in Turkish. (Hold a conversation) Sorry I couldn't be much help
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Ken Grubb in Seeking a Job in a Hotel in Turkey   
    Working as a rep for a UK company like first choice etc would be easier as they sort out the visas but it is very unlikely you'll get the hotel of your choice. Most companies would ask your preference but they may not give it to you.
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from wharp in Eskişehir   
    Hi usacamaliIf you can post the videos I for one would love to see them.
    Yes you are probably right. Eskişehir has a big university there -Anadolu. Which is ranked quite high in Turkey I believe. If my Turkish was good enough I'd love to study there. It's a wonderful place.
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from 20Lisa13 in Divorce - received paperwork from family court   
    Hi LisaFrom what I know having gone through the process myself for my hubby to be is that this is your decree nisi. You have 15 days to appeal (in our language) with good reason as to why your decree absloute should not be granted. Here in the UK it would be at least 3 months I believe. If you don't respond then on the 15th day your husband can apply to the court for the decree absolute stamp to those papers. Then you are officially divorced. If there are children involved who have Turkish ID /Kimlik they are usually granted custody to the father if you're not Turkish but this is not really enforceable in the UK so don't worry too much. I believe you don't have to do anything - basically ignore it. If you look on www.turkishdivorce.com the process is on there.
    I doubt citizens advice would help if your in the UK as they have had a lot of legal funding cuts and also it's not European or UK law so they probably wouldn't know the answers anyway.
    Hope this helps xx
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from nikemre in Should i trust him or never?   
    Hi
     
    From the outside I can see why the others would say run away - especially if you can hardly communicate with each other. That would make the relationship hard. However saying that - I met my hubby to be in Marmaris. I never thought I would fall for a barman especially one in a tourist resort but I did and we have been together for over 2 years, He has never once used me for a visa or for money. He is independent and would hate it if people thought he was a user. But he isn't your average stereotypical 'waiter' of course I'd say that I'm bias! but without revealing his life story he has life experiences which lead to where he is now and as to why I can trust him. I know he would do anything to give me a wonderful life but we both are not materialistic and live with the means we have and are more than happy.
     
    And for those that are cynical about love at first sight I believe in it. It may have taken a while for me to give in but the moment I saw him something in my stomach told me we would be together. Don't get me wrong I did NOT throw myself at him! I was adamant that I was too old for a holiday romance and had so much crap going on back home the last thing I needed was a long distance relationship but I'm glad we gave it a go. My family love him and his family love me!
     
    Go slow, get to know each other, basically how I'd hope you would be in a relationship in your own country. Before hubby to be I jumped head first into a relationship and it was a disaster. I took this one slowly and it's the best thing I ever did. 
     
    We are a team and no one will pull our defences apart
     
    I hope you think about things before you decide and don't rush into any big commitments - certainly don't send any large amounts of money and take his promises with a pinch of salt until he can prove he is serious about it.
     
    Good luck and keep us posted
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from destiny in Advice   
    Actually I think you've missed understood the replies. You gave us the info and asked us for advice. Based on what you told her we gave you the advice like we would friends which is why this forum is great. Why would we say stick by her when you clearly aren't happy. If you were you wouldn't be posting your life on here. It does take a bigger man to walk away sometimes as you'll be ruining her life if you do marry her and stay even if you're not happy as she could have met someone who made her happy and you will resent her for not being able to meet someone who does make you happy.
    I personally gave you the advice to talk to her to sort it out and it doesn't seem that you have?
    It's up to you. None of us can make that decision for you we are just being honest.
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Vic801 in Advice   
    Then you've answered your own question. Now you have to find a way with dealing with the things she does that upsets you and address them.
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    LindaAnneStaines got a reaction from Vic801 in Advice   
    Actually I think you've missed understood the replies. You gave us the info and asked us for advice. Based on what you told her we gave you the advice like we would friends which is why this forum is great. Why would we say stick by her when you clearly aren't happy. If you were you wouldn't be posting your life on here. It does take a bigger man to walk away sometimes as you'll be ruining her life if you do marry her and stay even if you're not happy as she could have met someone who made her happy and you will resent her for not being able to meet someone who does make you happy.
    I personally gave you the advice to talk to her to sort it out and it doesn't seem that you have?
    It's up to you. None of us can make that decision for you we are just being honest.
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