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    Çeşme, İzmir

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  1. You're right Göreme, the website isn't up to scratch! As Ken says, you can buy a ticket at the Izmir otogar as buses do generally go every 30 to 40 minutes, or phone them for same. I haven't used the route for almost 2 years so there may be some "viral" changes. If you're planning to return via the same route, be sure to make a phone booking for the Çeşme-Izmir leg as it's often crowded during tourist season. But if you want to go straight back to Istanbul, other bus companies such as Ulusoy, Kamil Koç or Metro depart from Çeşme direct (so you won't have to change buses at Izmir on the way). Hope this helps...
  2. Here's the website https://www.cesmeseyahat.com/ You can book online or just call them...
  3. Yes, that would be so, Sonia. But now, because of COVD-19, that kids have had to do their schooling at home, online or via TV (with parental supervision), it might just catch on a bit more. Same might happen with jobs as people find it's plausible to work from home.
  4. Hi Selim, I think your thoughts about Turkey's economic & political situation are amazingly accurate -- obviously you are closely following what's going on here. Years ago we had interesting discussions on this forum about Turkey's chances of being accepted into the EU,. I was (& still am) of the opinion it wouldn't be anytime soon. In fact Germany did say at one stage it would never happen while RTE stays in power. The education system is indeed a disaster, having seen so many changes under the current ruling party. Youngsters have little hope of finding decent jobs, even after all the effort of studying for degrees. It's a slap in the face for them to see high-paid jobs given to non-qualified party supporters. While my daughter succeeded through the secondary system, she preferred to complete tertiary education in the UK because "Turkish credentials are not highly regarded" (apparently?). Academics are often ostracized for voicing certain opinions. Same with journalists. I agree with you, we need a new president, one who is non-partisan. And yet there are those who who loyally support the current regime, which will try every trick in the book to stay in power (remember the fiasco with the Istanbul mayoral election last year?). If they win again in 2023, God only help us and this country.....
  5. MEIzmir.... I actually saw it on HalkTV night before last....
  6. And now it seems the head of the MHP Devlet Bahçeli has put forward a proposal that users must log in to their social media accounts by kimlik numbers..... this is extremely concerning to say the least! I hope it doesn't succeed.
  7. Hi Mary, welcome to the forum. I think the guy you've been dating has suddenly got cold feet (changed his mind about your relationship), but could not face telling you or to explain why. If everything was going well & normal (as you say) until he was faced with your child online, perhaps that had something to do with it? I may be wrong of course... it just seems to have happened at that point. If he doesn't contact you again it likely means it's finished -- although it's not a nice way to do it.. by ghosting you. I don't think it's usual for Turkish men to behave like this, although some may do, of course. And Ramadan wouldn't normally get in the way. He might have some sort of problem too. You were honest up front with him but he still let you down. It may be hard to deal with it, but if I was in your shoes, I'd just try to forget him, it may be for the best. I wish you well.
  8. Dear tequelinka, you will be having some difficult times in your own mind to look at both sides of the situation & make a decision for yourself. I wish you good luck in your journey.... and.. Oncebitten, I hope you made it back home before the travel bans... it seems the Corona virus is impacting heavily on people's destinies at this time, sometimes turning our worlds upside down. I also wish a good outcome for you. It really would be nice if the two of you could mutually support each other, as it is your personal lives & destinies that are at stake! God bless you both! :)
  9. Confirmed cases now well over 1800, with 44 deaths. Yes, it would be interesting to know the locations of these deaths, & even more interesting to know why the authorities are withholding that information. Because those of us over 65 are now forcefully confined to our homes, we can't travel or "avoid" areas of high deaths anyway... Yesterday in Ceşme I was reprimanded, first at the Electricity authority for coming in to pay the bill, & then by a traffic policeman who kindly encouraged me to return home a.s.a.p. Though I was masked & gloved all along I knew I should be at home but really needed to get stuff done, so risked going out.. I imagine the officials tasked with helping us to do these things would be flat out with the many requests, but I did see many elderlies out & about, unmasked & not bothered with keeping distances. We now have arrangements in place to get all our errands done for us, & banking business done remotely. Stay safe everyone..
  10. Wow, Oncebitten, it's good to hear back from you as I was wondering how things were working out for you. And thanks for addressing tequelinka too; your advice (literally from the horse's mouth) will, I hope, have a stronger impression on her than anything the rest of us could possibly say, who haven't lived it. I certainly hope she will take it to heart. tequelinka, I urge you to read the signs your fiance is showing you, read his anger when you challenge his dictates. Some things can't be left till after marriage to settle... you must sort them out now, before you take that step. Before it's too late......! Good luck with whatever you decide to do, just don't be blind-sighted as Oncebitten says.
  11. Dear tequelinka, in answer to your first question - YES! If he is already trying to control you now & gets angry, I'm sorry to say it's highly likely it will get worse after the wedding. Isn't it better to sort it all out before you go ahead with marriage? What does your family think about this? If you marry him now, and maybe have a child with him, believe me, it can get much worse. You already have one example of this from Oncebitten's story above.... married, home all day while he is working, not allowed to have friends or go out alone. His argument about dressing "modestly" as in the Koran (also in the Bible) is open to interpretation... it doesn't mean you should be totally covered up. Trust is also important -- he should trust you enough to let you see your friends & not need to check your phone calls & messages. And by the way, have you settled the question of your religious differences, at least? A woman alone in Turkey is probably as safe as anywhere else, provided she uses plain common sense. It's plain to see that he has his own fixed ideas about things & will insist you go his way. As I said before, it's totally up to you, & it's wise to wait & see. Good luck!
  12. tequelinka, I think you are very young & of course in love with your fiance, so you feel these things about trying to control how you look, how you dress & who you can talk to will not matter because he loves you, and you feel you should accept this because "it's part of the Turkish culture, & all Turkish men are like that". Perhaps many Turkish males are like that because it's how they were raised and what they observed in their own families & communities. But NOT all of them are like that. They are mostly on a continuum (some extreme, others less so). In the end, it depends on whether you are prepared to give up your freedoms for the sake of this man you love. There's no way you can change him -- you either accept it or not. This forum has many stories on this topic which you can find if you dig deep enough. The decision is, of course, yours. If I was in your position, I wouldn't be in a hurry to marry, maybe wait a bit longer & see how it goes. At least be aware of the possibilities. Whatever you decide, I wish you happiness!
  13. Hi tequelinka24, I totally agree with your recommendation that Oncebitten should leave the husband who treats her so poorly... Perhaps you might also consider your own situation... in Turkey it's often just as difficult to break ties with a fiance as with a husband, as they think they already "own" you. Marrying your fiance may see you trapped like in the scenario above... I think you should leave this guy!
  14. Hello Oncebitten, welcome! Your post really saddened me. As Cukurbagli says, it's not supposed to be like this, but unfortunately some Turkish & Kurdish men can be extreme in this type of behaviour, & you do not deserve this. No matter what you do he can't or won't change that behaviour because to him it is quite normal. I'm surprised he is letting you go to visit your family! Yes, you would do well to escape him in this way, but please do take very good care that you don't give him cause to suspect your plans beforehand..... I wish you the very best of success!
  15. Hi Crystal, welcome. Reading your post left me very concerned at your situation. Your description of your boyfriend's behaviour shows up so many red flags, if I was in your shoes I would never marry him but run away as far as possible. He sounds very controlling, he would never change & you would never be happy. If you have not yet met his family you have no way of knowing the truth about his background. Sorry my thoughts may not be to your liking, but there's no way to whitewash someone like that. In the end the decision is yours to make, & I wish you well.....
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