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  • Birthday 25/02/1977

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    By profession: real estate. By choice: online marketing and trying to be a bit innovative; enjoying the lovely sun and sea here in Altinkum and going on boat trips which I do a lot because my other half runs private boat tours! Lucky me!

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  1. Hi everyone! Well the campaign has been pretty effective because Easyjet now have flights between Manchester and Bodrum starting in August this year! Now I reckon flights from further north - like Newcastle - would be very welcome... I wonder whether they'd consider it??
  2. Fantastic, JK1, I have a great joan bakewell as miss marple image in my mind's eye now!
  3. I mean the British Consulate that is nearest to you in Turkey or that deals with where you are marrying. There is an honourary consulate in Adana but I don't think it deals with marriages. He can tell you which consulate DOES deal with your area though. I'm sure you can go to Ankara because that's the main consulate, but maybe you can also use Antalya which might make for a nicer trip! (Especially in winter!).http://ukinturkey.fco.gov.uk/en/our-office...ions-in-turkey/
  4. Oh-ho, medical exam... THAT'S a can of worms! I think the international marriage licence is what you get at your local consulate when you take your certificate of non-impediment there to be translated. They issue you with a bunch of papers that you need to take to the local Vali to be signed and once you have that you can proceed onto the hospital and then onwards to the Turkish registrar. Hospital?? I hear you cry... Yes, anyone intending to marry in Turkey needs to take a blood test at the local Sağlık Ocağı (health centre) to show they don't have undesirable diseases. This isn't a foreigner thing - Turks also need to take the same test. I'm not sure what they test for though - we didn't need to wait for any results before heading down to the registrar's office to book our dates. HOWEVER... women who have been married before and divorced less than 300 days used to have to have an internal pregnancy test (presumably to prove they were not pregnant with their ex-husband's child). From what I can discover, they don't do this any more. But a friend of mine (who I don't think had been married before) made the mistake of going to a relatively rural clinic, and was given the same test!!! She was far more reticent about it than I would have been, I think :S Moral of the story? Stick to more cosmopolitan areas when having health checks....
  5. Benhalterci, I don't agree with you - though maybe we are talking about different things. Those a**holes you describe would be the same a**holes no matter where they lived and there are also plenty in London where I was brought up. But there are other men around, who don't behave like pigs but whose cultural experiences lead them to different interpretations of normal situations than, for example, a man brought up in London. Like Romy's boat trip experience. A Turkish woman would only chat on her own with a man she didn't know if she was "interested" in him, and that's how the boat trip guy interpreted her behaviour. When she made it clear that wasn't her intention, he backed off. Anyone who has travelled enough will know that different cultures have different natural boundaries and different interpretations for body language and social situations. A wise traveller will make the effort to understand these and modify their own behaviour and their interpretation of others' accordingly. Better-known examples: the old "personal space" thing - Northern Europeans have a bigger sense of personal space than Mediterraneans so you can occasionally see conversations moving across the room as the northern european backs away at the invasion of personal space and the mediterranean comes closer; hand gestures - the thumb-and-forefinger-forming-a-circle gesture means "ok" in some cultures and something very insulting in others; the importance of taking your shoes off as you enter a muslim house; blowing your nose in public (extremely rude in some cultures); men holding hands or arm-in-arm in public (friendship in some cultures, love affair in others). Romy, if you encounter an a**hole who won't take no for an answer, do whatever it takes to get away from him and run to the nearest available place for help. Mace is illegal here - as in the UK - but I do know people here who carry it so it's obviously available. Hairspray IS legal though and I know from self-inflicted injury that sprayed in the eyes it can be a very effective deterrent :huh:But back to avoidance of trouble - you already know not to walk around deserted places & especially at night; stick to routes you are familiar with and know how to get where you're going; walk confidently; don't restrict your awareness by listening to headphones, talking on the phone or wearing a hood that restricts your vision; don't wear clothes that will handicap you if you need to move quickly... I'm sure there are plenty more suggestions around!
  6. Hmm, interesting idea Ben! Well obviously being a former weightlifter doesn't work (credit to Moonstar downloadable dictionary for that translation ) - I think perhaps because as benhalterci says, there's an idea that European women are up for it pretty much unselectively so they actually BELIEVE we are pleased to be hassled. Not helped by... erm well the ones who ARE up for it pretty much unselectively and can be found dancing drunkenly in naff discos in most of the holiday resorts... but also the fact that we expect to be able to interact pretty much the same with men we don't know as with women we don't know, without it being taken as a come-on. I've been brought up to consider it polite to smile and make eye contact with people I am speaking to but to do that here to a man you don't know is like inviting him out to dinner! The boundaries and expectations are just different here. I suppose the best knock-backs are Turkish but maybe they don't need to be unpublishable... wouldn't something along the lines of "shame on you! would you talk to your mother/sister/daughter like that?" do the trick? The double-whammy of speaking Turkish and evoking family ties might shock transgressors into submission...
  7. Aha, you really are a halterci... I looked it up in the dictionary yesterday but hadn't got round to asking you about it :huh:I agree completely about the slimeballs BUT I stand by what I say about clothing. I still look just as European as I ever did - white non-tanning skin, freckles, blue eyes, light brown hair. When I dressed in what I felt pretty in, I got hassled. My first ever trip to Turkey was Marmaris and I remember walking down the seafront - on my own, in the daytime - in an ankle-length dress that just so happened to have strappy sleeves. I got SOOOOOOOOOO much hassle, and horrible hassle at that, that I nearly never returned to Turkey. Now I wear that same dress in the summer with a t-shirt over the top so my shoulders aren't showing and there's an extra layer of material between my chest and the outside world, and no problem. Romy, you might have to make a choice between feeling pretty and getting hassled - even if you are a weightlifter like benhalterci. I don't think this compromise is "right", by the way - but this is the real world, not an idealistic one. If you're prepared to bat off the unwanted advances, take a stand and wear whatever makes you happy and if you're like me and prefer to keep your head down, then modify your clothing to suit to your environment.
  8. You probably don't need to speak that much Turkish - body language speaks volumes! But that's why what you wear etc can be so important. The longer I spend here, the more I find myself adjusting to Turkish levels of acceptable dress and the less I find anyone wants to talk to me . By "turkish levels" I really mean small town domestic dress - you can switch on the telly here and see chat show presenters with the most astonishingly plunging necklines, gravity-defying bosoms and thigh-flashing hemlines but even at a big party in a small town the amcas would keel over in shock if anyone turned up wearing something like that! This is my "style guide" - and it's as much about what I feel comfortable walking around in as what I think other people expect me to wear. Conversely I'd feel mortally uncomfortable wearing my "turkish wardrobe" in london - far too old-fashioned and unadventurous... So... no clingy (shaped is ok), no ankles or elbows except in summer, not even a hint of cleavage (polo necks with something over the top are good unless it really is too hot), avoid shoulders and avoid knees. Typically I wear trousers, long sleeves & high round necks until spring, when I willl probably change my long sleeves for short, then in summer change my trousers to knee-length skirts or crops. If I want to wear a v-neck I'll make sure it nearly comes up to my collarbone, and if not I'll wear something higher underneath. Flat shoes or boots are far easier to wear than heels. If you look around at Turkish women, you'll find they often wear more covered tops underneath the slighter, prettier ones that are more decorative! It's a good way to make sure no-one misinterprets you wanting to look nice as you wanting them to follow you round the streets. As for scarves, in a tourist area they are unnecessary, but if you're somewhere else and look around and see most other women are wearing them, you might feel more comfortable wearing one too. If that's the case, also adjust the length of your top so that it covers your bum and you'll probably fit right in... My friend recently went to Urfa in the east of Turkey and I had a good old chuckle at the photos of her wearing huge gypsy skirts, trainers, long sleeves, a headscarf and trendy sunglasses in place of her coiffed hair, perfect makeup, pedicures and stylish clothes... As for talking to men... well my godmother seems able to strike up conversations with men wherever she goes and adjust the tone so they don't think she's chatting them up, but she has a lot of practice after having lived in Morocco, India and Japan for the last 4 decades. I'd recommend trying not to start conversations with men unless there's an obvious context and be ready to repel boarders gently but firmly (waving a wedding ring won't cut it!). Apart from that, common sense really. Follow the same guidelines as you would anywhere else you weren't familiar with and you'll be fine. And if you DO get into trouble, don't be afraid to ask for help, you'll find it given generously and with no agenda.
  9. Hi lilletI have a couple of friends - one Turkish, one British nationality, who married in the UK, divorced in the UK and later both successfully remarried in Turkey (to new partners of course!). I presume all their marriage and divorce paperwork would have been done in the UK, and as far as I know neither of them had issues remarrying in Turkey. I think your ex-husband might just be trying to bully you. Maybe you DO need to register your divorce in Turkey but I would be surprised if you need to re-divorce your ex! Sounds like maybe the paperwork in Turkey isn't complete enough for him to remarry. Did they have your decree absolute apostilled in the UK before trying to use it in Turkey? If not, maybe that's why it's not being accepted. If you want some good advice about this, try asking Myfanwy on this forum - she is a British solicitor working with a Turkish one so might be able to give good advice regarding both countries' legalities. Regarding your power of attorney, it only gives as much freedom as is specified on the document itself. If you are concerned that it's too general and might allow your representative to do things you don't want, don't send it. They will need the document itself in order to use it even if it's registered at the FCO. You can have a replacement done that is more to your liking. Needless to say though I would recommend that you only give POA to someone you feel you can trust not to misuse it - maybe if you feel this lawyer is close to your ex-husband you would sleep more easily giving that responsibility to someone else instead.
  10. Thanks Lesley - actually your guestbook signature worked a treat! let me know if there's any other info you'd like to see on the site, I don't often get the chance to edit it but it's good to know what I should be adding when I DO get the opportunity!
  11. Hmm, pigeons... what a good idea! We could get a Luddite's menagerie going on, I've often thought a horse would make an excellent form of transport in the less paved areas out here! An alternative to posting to your bank might be faxing them instead: I know some transactions are acceptable by fax and that might be one of them :DHSBC Didim's main fax number is +90 256 811 3988.
  12. Well I guess this is a problem that affects everyone! We are lucky in that our postman is good and as long as our mail gets as far as Altinkum, we can be sure to receive it - it's just the bit BEFORE that.... So I've been looking into alternative postal services. Within Turkey, couriers are cheap - we use Aras cargo successfully. But what about TO Turkey? Does anyone have any recommendations? I can't seem to find a service less than
  13. Well I am annoyed! On principle more than anything else. I recently received a letter from my mum, posted from the UK. 4 pages in a normal letter envelope, correctly addressed and with the sender's address in the top left corner. It took longer than usual, and when it finally arrived, I found out why - it had been opened by the PTT "for security reasons". It was delivered in a carefully sealed clear plastic sleeve to make sure the contents didn't fall out, the sleeve printed with a note explaining that my post had been opened (for said security reasons) and that if there was anything missing, I could contact the postal service. Technically, there is no problem. The letter wasn't important, there was nothing of value inside, and I did receive it after a while. But I want more! Somewhere in Turkey are letters from my late grandmother, parcels from my friends, and no doubt plenty of other things I'm not even aware of. I'm tired of my mail going missing, or being opened! Not tired enough to ask my friends and family to only use expensive special parcel services to send to me though. :DSo does anyone know... Why does the PTT have the right to open my post? Is there anything I can do to stop it (like have it sent to me with a customs form stuck on)? What are they looking for? Do they open outgoing post too, or just incoming? What are the rules about this?
  14. Thanks JK1 - I'd like to think people up here in Didim are quite pleased to have us around too! To earn a little money you could always extend what you're already doing and rent to friends of friends - just make sure you get a deposit, it's absolutely crucial! And make sure they are clear that they need to take the rubbish out, do the laundry, clean the property and switch off the mains utilities before they leave (presuming you have no-one to go in and do a clean and inspection afterwards). You'd just need a lockable storage unit where you can leave your personal items so you can still turn up with your hand luggage and your easy start to your holiday! A lot of people use storage beds, and you can fit a lock to them as long as the right type of lock is available. Glad to hear your recommendation of Intasure by the way. Yes, some Turkish companies also offer 3rd party insurance for rental properties now, and policies in English. I'm not too sure about communal pools - I would always recommend that holidaymakers get their own travel insurance to cover accidents though.
  15. Hi BYHC & JK1 We manage a lot of rentals, holiday and otherwise. We don't deal with tax but I do know that there is a relatively straightforward system for calculating and declaring the tax from your rental income in Turkey. There might be more to pay later in the UK or wherever your home nation is, but you will get a receipt from Turkey for the tax you've paid here, and you'll only need to pay the difference if your home tax rate is higher. So if it's 17% in Turkey but 20% in the UK, you'll need to pay that remaining 3%. The total is the same as if you were just paying tax directly in the UK. Re insurance, while Intasure are good and competitively priced, you might be better off with a local insurer who can get down to your property within hours, not days if an incident arises. They also might be able to tailor make their policy for you. But prevention is a better course of action than relying on insurance to sort out any problems that might arise - keep your home secure, fix things that might be dangerous for your guests, install alarms, have a monitoring system in place. @BYHC we find that owners prefer to pay fixed costs than percentages on advertising. The main reasons for success are providing a well-managed property in good condition, clear paperwork and good admin, sensible and accessible payment terms, taking a security deposit, and treating the arrangement with common sense. We rarely encounter problems and I'm sure it's down to the fact that we very obviously respect the properties we let out and the rights of both owner and tenant. And in return for that free market research, perhaps if you have a project in mind, you'd like to ask me to join you!
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