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TaterTot

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    TaterTot got a reaction from Goreme1990 in American Man Dating Turkish Woman   
    Take what you want and leave the rest.  But don't confuse being practical with being negative.
     
    You'll appreciate it more once you've had my experience of actually being married to a Turkish family... if you ever get there.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from wbtcpip in Please Help With My Turkish Wifes Behaviour's/moods   
    Cultural difference?  Age difference?  Personality disorder?
     
    Who cares?  It's a crap marriage/situation.
     
    Best to focus on the "Now what" instead of the Whys and Wherefores.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from greenstein in Marry a turkish man   
    Hello.
    I think the least of your worries should be the particulars of finances in Turkey, as I don't see your man as being sincere.
    Blocking you from accounts and reopening others?  Sounds waaaay shady.  Also, do his parents know about you?  Lots of questions to answer before even thinking about this guy in a serious way, I'm afraid...
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    TaterTot reacted to Ken Grubb in Need advice with complicated situation   
    Getting a UK visa is the primary hurdle. I am mainly familiar with the problems in getting a visa to the USA, but it's probably much the same. Because many visitors in the past have gotten visas and then just disappeared into the country somewhere, living and working illegally, the government goes on the presumption that a visitor is coming to stay, and the burden of proof is on the visitor to prove otherwise, by giving some proof that they will return to their country when their visa expires. Things such as a job, a company, property, or other ties they would not be likely to abandon, among other things.
    Have a look at the UK Visas forum and you'll see topics related to Turks getting visas to go to the UK.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from mscanada in Need advice with complicated situation   
    Sorry to be a wet blanket, but if you are unemployed, you don't sound ready to be considering a serious relationship.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Ken Grubb in Need help with Turkish Boyfriend problem   
    How do you know his "sister" isn't really his wife?
     
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Aysun in Need help with Turkish Boyfriend problem   
    How do you know his "sister" isn't really his wife?
     
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Aysun in Falling for a Turkish guy   
    Are you ready to be disowned?
     
    If you and he really are into each other and are talking serious, then start having important conversations... like were you to be disowned, would you go back to Turkey to live with his family???
    Why is he here?  Does he need someone to get with to stay there, or is he fine going back to Turkey?  
    What about kids?  You career?
    You're young, so no need to rush things.  Enjoy your freedom.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from mscanada in American Woman/Turkish Man - Potential Relationship   
    Have you skyped with him?
     
    To your OP question, you could ask to see his Kimlik to prove that he's not married.  You mentioned kids- any way to get them to stay with their dad while you and a friend go to Turkey?
     
    Getting him to come here would mean that you'd have to sponsor his visa.  And do you want him staying at your house???  I'd rather go there than have him all up in my space...
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Ken Grubb in Falling for a Turkish guy   
    Are you ready to be disowned?
     
    If you and he really are into each other and are talking serious, then start having important conversations... like were you to be disowned, would you go back to Turkey to live with his family???
    Why is he here?  Does he need someone to get with to stay there, or is he fine going back to Turkey?  
    What about kids?  You career?
    You're young, so no need to rush things.  Enjoy your freedom.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from IbrahimAbi in Need help with Turkish Boyfriend problem   
    How do you know his "sister" isn't really his wife?
     
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Ken Grubb in How to become an intimate friends   
    Maybe... but that's not what you are looking for, right?
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Ken Grubb in How to become an intimate friends   
    Every person has their own opinion.  This is just mine.  I think it's good to be honest about why you are wanting to meet women.  As I said, BOTH my SIL and BIL met their now husbands and wives knowing from the START that it was marriage with the end goal.
    My suggestion is to find families who are this traditional way as well.
    That's my perspective.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Ken Grubb in How to become an intimate friends   
    No worries.  My husband is Turk and has improved A LOT since our first meeting.  It's due to me being an English teacher and being very strict with his mistakes.  I guess I took that approach with you as well.  Thanks for understanding!
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Star in How to become an intimate friends   
    Maybe... but that's not what you are looking for, right?
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Star in How to become an intimate friends   
    Every person has their own opinion.  This is just mine.  I think it's good to be honest about why you are wanting to meet women.  As I said, BOTH my SIL and BIL met their now husbands and wives knowing from the START that it was marriage with the end goal.
    My suggestion is to find families who are this traditional way as well.
    That's my perspective.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Star in How to become an intimate friends   
    Again, I'd go through the family.
    If you have MALE friends where you live, as THEM if they have any sisters ready for marriage...  Or maybe they've got other friends who have sisters.  Just get the word out that you want to find a wife... presuming you are financially stable and can support a family, know how to treat a woman with respect, then you should have no problems.  Being a good dresser and good smelling (but not too much cologne) helps, too!
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Star in How to become an intimate friends   
    No worries.  My husband is Turk and has improved A LOT since our first meeting.  It's due to me being an English teacher and being very strict with his mistakes.  I guess I took that approach with you as well.  Thanks for understanding!
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Star in How to become an intimate friends   
    Hello.  I see you PMed me, so I thought I'd respond.
    First off, please understand that your English is not "perfect."  This is not a criticism, but you do need to understand that.  I would not be doing you a favor if I kept that to myself.  You need to know.
    To the point of your query- does she have a brother?  
    Presuming she's traditional and you are, too, I'd be clear that you are ready in your life to find a wife and settle down.  They will respect you if you make this intent clear.  Better to do that then to "pretend" to be her friend when you really want a wife.
    I know others may differ, but my husband's family is traditional Turk, and I've seen both his brother AND sister meet and marry within six months' time!
    (Yes, I am a woman... you called me "Brother" in your PM to me.  Surprise!)  : D
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Vic801 in confused english girl   
    Thank you, Ken.  Even if it *were* true about the V part, I'd not want to be with a guy who had sex with me just to appease his friends.  Yuck.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from tcadmin in confused english girl   
    Touchy!  I didn't think I was being judgmental.  I'm not the one seeking advice on a website calling myself confused. 
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    TaterTot got a reaction from greenstein in confused english girl   
    Touchy!  I didn't think I was being judgmental.  I'm not the one seeking advice on a website calling myself confused. 
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    TaterTot got a reaction from greenstein in confused english girl   
    He suggests that you go for a "walk" but you end up having sex?  And you believe him when he says he was a virgin?  Hey- I've got a bridge to sell you.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Goreme1990 in confused english girl   
    He suggests that you go for a "walk" but you end up having sex?  And you believe him when he says he was a virgin?  Hey- I've got a bridge to sell you.
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    TaterTot got a reaction from Shellysweetheart1 in Controlling? obnoxious? childish turkish men?   
    I was with an abuser years ago and he was American.
     
    I'm now married to a Turk and he loves, respects and honors me.  So don't put it on the ethnicity of the guy to control you.
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