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  1. I hope I don't get shot for saying this, but it's only based on my (admittedly limited) experience. As long as you aren't in the tourist areas (which you will NOT be!), then it's been my take that there really aren't that many other people in Turkey besides Turks- in GENERAL. But you are also Muslim, so you have that going for you. Just don't interpret stares of interest as judgment. And don't expect a friendly smile (like I would in the States). That would be too invasive. I'd not overthink it too much, considering I'd think Egypt would be a lot more of a switch compared to Turkey.
  2. Selam aleykum! My husband's from Izmit. It's 1 1/2 hours from Istanbul, but a small town. Modern and fully technologically functioning. My in-laws are very spiritual people and mommie even runs a prayer house. I think you would like it there. Many markets with local produce and such. If my in-laws feel comfortable there with their practices, then I'm sure you would, too. There's also Konya, where her relatives are from. There's much Sufism there due to Mevlana/Rumi. But since it's a tourist area, there's also the internet. I'm sorry you are considering having to leave your countr
  3. I never like having dessert right after the main meal. I like to give it some wait time... I also like COFFEE with my dessert- not tea. And while I love Turkish coffee, that's not what I like, since even THAT is sweet!
  4. Are you wishing it to a Turk, or just a Muslim in general, as they are different. Eid Mubarak would work for a non-Turk.
  5. Did you get the red book? I'm sure if you take that to your local courthouse, they can help you. Congratulations, by the way!
  6. That's why I did not post on the Istanbul Rising protest thread. I did not want to turn this one into another one of those. I just wanted to say that YES, Ataturk was a great man, but I feel that he'd probably be rolling in his grave if he knew what was going on today in his name.
  7. The US is NOT free from church and state. That's a huge lie. (Not you- our system!) Money washes the hands of many lobbyists and policy is decided beyond just what the constitution dictates. You obviously know more than me with your experience. I can only say what I think given my limited knowledge. One day, I plan to move to Turkey and will have a better perspective. I just know that the media does a very good job supporting the protester's point of view, but I see/hear many opposing perspectives and there's more than just one side to a coin.
  8. Yes, a little sensitivity goes a LONG way in a foreign country! Turks are very kind if they see that you are attempting to respect their culture. Always best to err on the side of conservative. I'm jealous! : D
  9. TaterTot

    Turkish Music

    I'll see if I can get my husband to give me a link to a music site. There also may be a facebook group.
  10. HobbitTR, you pretty much answered your own questions with the skewed perspective of the film. As for the protests, yes, that is directly to which I was referring. Everyone has the right to protest, but many were just looking for something to do. If the weather was not so good and they did it in February, I'm sure not so many people would turn to rioting in the streets. They make it out like it's to save some trees, but really, it's WAY more politically charged. There are plants in the crowds to incite them and they were drinking in mosques and iftar tents. It's clear that they distain
  11. Just the fact that, given all the media spin on all the protests, the anti-Islamic behaviors and criticisms of Erdogan, the edification of Ataturk's gotten on my nerves. Yes, he did a lot for Turkey. But that's not a reason to do what so many are doing right now. The film in general made it look like Turks were just a bunch of ignorant people and he came along and "fixed" them by Westernizing them. Yes, he did a lot of the country and he's celebrated. Erdogan has, too, yet he's criticized. Just because he's making it easier for people to worship if they CHOOSE to do so. Nobody can argu
  12. Yes, he was a great man. But many people mistakenly think he was anti-Islam. This is not the case! In fact, he was a religious, practicing man, but wanted to secularize the state as a way to PROTECT the image of TRUE Islam and not have Turkey associated with the oppression of the Middle East after the fall of the Ottoman Empire. I was at the Ataturk Museum (can't remember which city in Turkey) and while it wasn't that large, I spent the better part of the afternoon reading all the plaques. I came to realize that he's VERY MUCH misunderstood and praised for things he never intended. Turk
  13. I had my boy a year ago completely natural and I had to fight tooth and nail to have the birth I wanted here in the States. I know in Turkey, it's even "worse." But you're having twins, so you're "high risk" anyway, so I don't know if there'd be much difference. I'm VERY crunchy granola about the natural birth experience, so I'd do whatever I can to minimize interventions. Let the cords stop pulsing before cutting, put the babies right on you as soon as they're caught, etc. And if you don't want drugs (I was so happy I didn't!), then don't let them strap you down- you NEED to move around
  14. It's got to be difficult being a single mother. You probably see this man as a way to a happily ever after insta-family. I really do get it. My husband accepted me and my daughter unconditionally. Yes, I found my way to Islam and I've been VERY happy. But here's the thing- he's NEVER been controlling. Only supportive. Yes, I did make certain lifestyle changes, but they came from me, not his demanding them. I realized that I wanted to change in order to have a strong family. As a result, I converted, changed how I dressed, stopped drinking, etc. Yes, it was a big switch, but I can't
  15. You can defer if you go to college and then once you get out, you only need to do 5 months. At least that's what my husband did. But he's was only a full Turkish citizen. Why do you want to get out of it? We're considering what to do with our son. He was born in the States, and my husband wants to apply for our son's Turkish citizenship. What are your thoughts, Tako? Do you resent your parents or your situation? I'd like your perspective. Are there any benefits to Turkish citizenship in your eyes? I have my opinion, but I feel that I must also respect my husband's, especially since
  16. What do you mean by vegetarian? Do you eat cheese and eggs? When in Turkey, we had lots of veggie dishes. Dolmas are the biggest.
  17. Some want to "rush" it for religious reasons. If you are attracted to each other, then some feel it's bad to be together unless you're married, lest your tempted to do "bad" things...
  18. Yeah, it all depends... I remember one time, it was about two weeks since I thought I had meat and I was craving it. Well, lo and behold, a cousin had a BBQ and I was meated-out for about another two weeks!
  19. Perhaps she was waiting for the "Eleyna Salik" (pardon the spelling if it's wrong!) complement? I found if when I am finished, I wipe my mouth, put my silverware where suggested and say this phrase (literally "health to your hands") then it shows I am officially finished and satisfied. It also compliments the cook. Maybe she kept trying to satisfy you because you didn't say this??? Try it next time. You say it "el-LAY-nah SAL-lik." Oops- just read Ahududu's post. Sorry for being redundant. And a horrible speller.
  20. I could say so much... I'm married to a Turk and his family is WONDERFUL and also very religious. We live outside Phila and he was here to improve his English. LONG story short, he's still here with me and we've been married over two years with a precious little boy. (Mashallah!) Anyway, I converted and have been gloriously happy ever since. It's as if I was blessed that day I gave my life to Islam and I haven't looked back. Just the fact that she said to her dad that yes, she does have an American BF is HUGE, if she really did that. (Not that I'm suggesting she's lying.) Traditi
  21. You're lucky to have Ken! Marriage is only paperwork- it's the life you have once you get married! Where would you live? You might have mentioned that, but I missed it.
  22. I've noticed that gifts are not looked on the same- neither are birthdays. The only "bad" reason would be that you're a secret and he has no real intentions with you and he would not be able to explain the gift to his family.
  23. Hobbit- I believe you, but why would it be easier to get a teaching job at the university level rather than grammar school??? How about criminal record/fingerprint/child abuse clearances?
  24. This is just me being nosey, but it sounds like you're willing to make a lot of changes for this woman- different career and country. How "close" are you? For how long? Is she aware of you plans? What if she didn't pan out? Would you still want to be teaching English in Turkey? Just throwing that out there.
  25. You want romance??? Rent a movie!!! Trying to keep it light... But seriously, I'm almost 40 and you know what's 'romantic' to me now? A man who's honest and does what he says he's going to do. I complain to my husband that the light over the stove went out and a few day's later, I found it replaced because he went online and purchased a bulb the next day. Or that I mention we're out of TP and the next day, there's a fully stocked cabinet under the bathroom sink. May not be roses and poetry, but it's real.
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