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TaterTot last won the day on December 18 2018

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  1. Hello. I think the least of your worries should be the particulars of finances in Turkey, as I don't see your man as being sincere. Blocking you from accounts and reopening others? Sounds waaaay shady. Also, do his parents know about you? Lots of questions to answer before even thinking about this guy in a serious way, I'm afraid...
  2. Are you ready to be disowned? If you and he really are into each other and are talking serious, then start having important conversations... like were you to be disowned, would you go back to Turkey to live with his family??? Why is he here? Does he need someone to get with to stay there, or is he fine going back to Turkey? What about kids? You career? You're young, so no need to rush things. Enjoy your freedom.
  3. How do you know his "sister" isn't really his wife?
  4. Sorry to be a wet blanket, but if you are unemployed, you don't sound ready to be considering a serious relationship.
  5. Maybe... but that's not what you are looking for, right?
  6. Every person has their own opinion. This is just mine. I think it's good to be honest about why you are wanting to meet women. As I said, BOTH my SIL and BIL met their now husbands and wives knowing from the START that it was marriage with the end goal. My suggestion is to find families who are this traditional way as well. That's my perspective.
  7. Again, I'd go through the family. If you have MALE friends where you live, as THEM if they have any sisters ready for marriage... Or maybe they've got other friends who have sisters. Just get the word out that you want to find a wife... presuming you are financially stable and can support a family, know how to treat a woman with respect, then you should have no problems. Being a good dresser and good smelling (but not too much cologne) helps, too!
  8. No worries. My husband is Turk and has improved A LOT since our first meeting. It's due to me being an English teacher and being very strict with his mistakes. I guess I took that approach with you as well. Thanks for understanding!
  9. Hello. I see you PMed me, so I thought I'd respond. First off, please understand that your English is not "perfect." This is not a criticism, but you do need to understand that. I would not be doing you a favor if I kept that to myself. You need to know. To the point of your query- does she have a brother? Presuming she's traditional and you are, too, I'd be clear that you are ready in your life to find a wife and settle down. They will respect you if you make this intent clear. Better to do that then to "pretend" to be her friend when you really want a wife. I know others may differ, but my husband's family is traditional Turk, and I've seen both his brother AND sister meet and marry within six months' time! (Yes, I am a woman... you called me "Brother" in your PM to me. Surprise!) : D
  10. Thank you, Ken. Even if it *were* true about the V part, I'd not want to be with a guy who had sex with me just to appease his friends. Yuck.
  11. Touchy! I didn't think I was being judgmental. I'm not the one seeking advice on a website calling myself confused.
  12. He suggests that you go for a "walk" but you end up having sex? And you believe him when he says he was a virgin? Hey- I've got a bridge to sell you.
  13. Not much more to add... would you accept this behavior from a guy from your country? If not, then don't let the cultural difference weaken your expectations. End it and don't look back.
  14. It's not just a Turkish guy thing... it's a GUY thing, period! Since you are young, I don't recommend meeting men online, period. Cut all ties. If he persists, tell him you will report him to the authorities. There's something to be said for the traditional customs of having the parents introduce the kids...
  15. How about when you get sick because you didn't have a glass of warm water after eating ice cream? I would tease DH about all the Turkish folk lore, but this one actually happened to me! Maybe because we pasteurize everything in the States?
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