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[Pipersline]

So after much planning, and a few glitches here and there, myself, my Turkish husband, and our 5 year old, will be arriving in Turkey in two days. Permanently. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!! Ok. Got that out of the way. I really want to move. In fact it was my idea. but now that everything is said and done, and there is no turning back now and I'm finished with all the imense preparations that have kept me so busy over the past several months, I'm freaking out a little. Is this normal? Sometimes I wonder what I have gotten myself into? Is that normal? Am I doing the right thing? Will our son adjust? What if I want to move back? What if I hate it? What if I love it? Ahhhhhhhh!!!! Take a deep breath, relax, enjoy. Yeah right. Any advice would be very much appreciated. Any thoughts or feelings you experienced would be appreciated as well. Thanks in advance!

[Ahududu]

Hi Pipersline
We've just done the same thing - we've been here 6 weeks now.

I believe it's quite normal to have last minute jitters about emigrating, although we've been so busy, that I haven't had them! Well yet, anyway!!

Your son will be fine, at 5 he's adaptable, just keep as much of his previous routine as you can so he doesn't freek out ie. Bedtime stories, favourite foods, meal times, whatever it is.

We're concentrating on getting the flat as homely as possible so we feel more at home and it functions easily, then we can have some quality time together to relax a little, but it's taking ages!!
We've just finished furnishing the kids' bedrooms so they can get their books and toys set out around them, and they really love it - I think they missed their usual bits and pieces, and now they can see them, they're much happier!
Make sure your bedroom is nice and cosy too, so you can relax when you go to bed - looking at boxes for so many, many weeks can drag you down!!

It's a huge job to deconstruct your life, then reconstruct it somewhere else, so don't be hard on yourselves, flexibility is the key, then creating a new 'normality' is easier.

Good luck, where have you moved to? Will you be working? Have you got family near you? (although sometimes that could be worse!!!!!)
Keep us updated! Xx

[samanthaozkara]

Pipersline. Its normal to worry just as Sue said, its a big change to your life we have all had the nerves before we moved out here.

I was 19 when I moved here and I moved on my own just to make my relationship work with my now husband who my parents or family hadnt met so it was a big changed and a very scary experience but 1 I dont regret at all.

I wish you and your family all the luck for your move in the next 2 days. I know you will be fine. Where are you moving too? xxx

[sunny]

Before making any big move it's perfectly normal to get the jitters. All of us who have moved here have had them and you have the advantage of having a Turkish husband who will be able to sort things out when you get here. Things like getting a phone and ADSL connected, electricity and water sorted.
As Sue said, your son will be fine and settle in quicker than you.
Just take a deep breath and relax, preferably with a glass of wine.