Sunny

Koyceğiz
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  • Birthday 02/19/2006

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  • Gender Female
  • Location Koyceğiz, formerly Cesme
  • Interests Seeing friends, reading, boating , swimming, dogs & walking, spending too much time on the computer.

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  1. We Are Back Up Again, To Stay

    I was beginning to wonder if TC was ever going to get back on line. The new layout will take a bit of getting used to as always.
  2. Hello Salah. I see you have been getting some excellent advice from Ken the others.  May I suggest that, as you don't know the Fethiye area, that you consider renting somewhere for a while before you buy, as it would give you chance to get to know whether you like the town and the area and decide which part would be best for you, as there are quite a lot of different parts to Fethiye and its surroundings. May I ask what made you chose Fethiye?
  3. It will hurt but for your own sanity and safety please listen to us and don't go back. You've already been made ill due to stress. This won't go away as you will always have it at the back of your mind. No matter how much you love him, would you really want a life where you become totally subservient to him in case he throws a wobbly? Believe me, this is what will happen and you'll spend you life trying not to rock the boat to avoid his rages. The chances of him changing are negligible and you know it or you wouldn't be asking us our opinions. At the moment you've got independence and can come and go when you want but the longer you are together the more controlling he will become and already you have deleted FB because of his insane jealousy and cut yourself  off from your friends. While you are in the first flush of love you'll be able to cope with this but a few months down the line you  will become homesick and miss them. What then? Will you contact them secretly and lie about it if he questions you? If you live here, where will you live as I'm sure that he will start pressurising you not to work and to get married? Then you will be dependent on him and will not be able to easily escape. If you have children then you'll be really stuck as to visit the UK with them you'll need his written permission,noterised, to be able to take them out of the country.  Also once you are married in Turkey it's a new ball game. I gather from your post, that, as you had an 18 hour bus ride,  he comes from towards the eastern part of the country where families are more traditional and conservative. Married women are expected to stay at home and a lot even have to ask permission to go out to visit friends or go to the shops and are not expected to 'doll' themselves up, anyway you would be suspect if you went out alone and in some parts, if you went into a shop where there was a male assistant , your virtue would be questioned. My husband comes from Osmaniye and even when I walked my small dogs, the family always made sure that someone accompanied me. If you are sensible and decide not to go you will need to be strong to say no to his pleas as he will probably promise you the sun, moon and stars if you agree to go back. Be strong. What ever you decide to do I wish you good luck and remember we are here if you need to 'talk'.      
  4. Major Upgrade Under Way

    Must say it seems to have worked OK. One thing that is noticeable  is the problem with the 'Home country' on people's profile.
  5. What has inspired you ?

    What brought me here can be attributed to a number of accumulative reasons. Things in my private life were heading south, I was in a job that involved quite a lot of stress and pressure and I worked with a number of people who were frequently saying how fed up they were so I said "Well why don't you do something about it," and realised that this also applied to me so to cut a long story short, here I am. I've been here for over 25 years and, although there have been ups and downs, I wouldn't like to go back to live in the UK, although I visit usually twice a year to see family and friends.
  6. PLEASE HELP ME-- URGENT ADVICE NEEDED

    Personally, I'd just get one in Turkey as it saves all the hassle and it's not that much more expensive taking into account the tax and registration fees.  
  7. If you can afford both the expense and the time, the best way to get a good grounding in Turkish is to go to one of the intensive courses that various schools run. Here is a link with more information. http://www.studyinturkey.com/content/sub/learn_turkish_in_turkey.aspx 
  8. I agree that it would be better to rent here when you are ready and invest your money in the UK. If you rent out property here you have to pay tax on it even if you live in the UK.   The political situation is far from certain at the moment and likely to be for a while. There is also the issue of what's happening on the eastern side of the country and, while it's a long way away, who knows how things might escalate.   Friends of mine are seriously thinking of selling up here and renting instead so that if the situation here worsens all they have to do is pack their bags and leap on a plane and some others have lost money having sold their property and left the country because of the drop in the value of the lira.
  9. I'm afraid I have been unable to find any reference to citizenship via grandparents.   The only thing I've found is the following which you will have to see if your situation or your father's is covered.   http://madde14.org/english/index.php?title=Turkish_Citizenship_Law   I'm not sure why you would want to get a Turkish passport as it would be very restricted, needing visas for many countries. I think that passports have various lengths of time up to ten years.   If you are recognised as a citizen you would be eligible for military service, although I believe that it is possible to pay a fee for exemption. 
  10. The following link might be useful for you. Forgive me for not wading through it to find the specific information.   http://dergiler.ankara.edu.tr/dergiler/38/256/2307.pdf
  11. Study in turkey, need to learn turkish

    andreagulliksen You seem not to have researched this course and what it involves very much.   As an experienced English teacher, may I suggest that you postpone this course for a year to improve your English so that you do not need the preparatory course and give yourself time to learn Turkish.
  12. That's good news. Thanks for letting us know. I hope you'll both be very happy.
  13. I think that you need to forget this man and move on. In my opinion he's just been using you to entertain himself. The fact that he won't tell you about his situation rings alarm bells loudly. I would be surprised if he is single as the way he's behaving is very suspicious and not normal. What he said about the theology sounds like bull. Why should talking to foreigners be forbidden, you could easily be a Muslim and still be foreign, why would that be forbidden? Maybe, if he said talking to women is forbidden, that would be more plausible.   I'm sorry but I think there is no future in this relationship.
  14. Teaching English

    I think you have left it a bit late for this year as the academic year is just about ending but as Kimac says , try Dave's cafe, you might be lucky.   There are also private schools that require English teachers which would be a better option rather than language schools (Dershanes)  some of which  are notorious for their treatment of foreign teachers.   You would also need to check on viza/work permit requirements before you come.
  15. Would Izmir be a Better Place to Live than Antalya?

    Well, the villa looks nice but it looks like a 'yazlik' - summerhouse, great for when it's hot, but hell to heat in the winter being open plan. Also did you notice that it's semi detached? They say that the garden is private but that isn't true, there seem to be houses all around it.   Ciftlikoy is generally cheaper than Cesme/Ilica/Dalyan koy/Alacati. Germian and Ildiri are cheaper places.   Buying especially a new house you have to be careful that they have a tapu and habitation certificate also.   A better place to look, rather than a foreign company, for places to buy is sahibimden.com or Hurriyetemlak.com.   There is a small government (devlet)  hospital with a new one due to open soon and also a private hospital but for most serious treatment a visit to one of the Izmir hospitals is necessary.   Internet is variable. Some people have reasonable speeds but others have problems. The whole area tends to have problems in summer when the population soars.   There is satellite TV available but it you want US programmes most foreigners access programmes via their computers.   I think that Cesme is a pleasant place to live weather wise as there is usually a breeze blowing but it can make it colder in winter.   A drawback with Cesme is that it's on the end of a peninsular and to visit anywhere else in Turkey means that you have to travel back to Izmir. Unless your cousin speaks Turkish and knows something about the building trade I would strongly advise against buying land and building a house in Turkey, there are sooooo many pitfalls which I won't go into here.   I hope this helps. If you have any more questions feel free to ask.